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General Discussion / Re: the "things you wish you could say" thread
« Last post by archaeo42 on February 12, 2020, 10:00:48 AM »
To person 1: I don't know anyone that wants to do that.

To person 2: I'm not a mind reader. Be clear in the questions you ask and don't assume I know what year you're talking about. If you don't specify, I'll assume you mean the most recent one.
General Discussion / Re: 2020 Elections
« Last post by writingprof on February 12, 2020, 07:56:35 AM »


No. She thinks that Democrats who don't wish to dismember babies might have a place in the party.
General Discussion / Re: 2020 Elections
« Last post by mamselle on February 12, 2020, 07:08:24 AM »

General Discussion / Re: What have you read lately?
« Last post by nebo113 on February 12, 2020, 06:45:36 AM »
I'm currently plowing back through my collection of Louis L'Amour novels and short-story collections and (re)learning some things.

For example, I truly didn't know that (1) every exciting female was redheaded and (2) most fights are about cattle, the land required for those cattle, or both.

Haunted Mesa is one of my favorites by him.  It's a sci fi take on the Ancient Ones (Anasazi).
General Discussion / Re: the "things you wish you could say" thread
« Last post by RatGuy on February 12, 2020, 05:05:34 AM »
When I tell you, oh dear student, that I do not penalize students who miss class due to severe weather situations I don't appreciate you trying to take advantage of that. I was talking about a situation where we had tornado warnings, not just rain. Telling me in your email that you do not feel safe driving in because we might have a few periods of somewhat heavy rain does you no favors, especially when it is sunny most of the day. Unfortunately saying "suck it up, buttercup" would likely be frowned up by my superior...

When its raining heavily, most of my students will take an Uber.

From their dorms.
General Discussion / Re: What's your weather?
« Last post by ergative on February 12, 2020, 02:56:32 AM »
We've had constant wind, rain, sleet, and hail since Saturday. I've been going to work as usual, but Absolutive has the week off, and he's been spending the day in pyjamas with cups of coffee, watching the weather out the window. I am firmly reminding myself that I love him and am happy for him.
General Discussion / Re: 2020 Elections
« Last post by spork on February 11, 2020, 05:41:52 PM »

[. . .]

I predict Biden's campaign will continue its downward spiral and that he will get crushed in South Carolina if his campaign lasts that long.

I am going to continue with this prediction.
General Discussion / Re: Dealing with chronic disability, pain, and fatigue
« Last post by mamselle on February 11, 2020, 05:18:03 PM »
Do NOT internalize those messages.


We on this thread will all tell you not to.

So, DON'T.

   <<channeling Octo's stern gaze>>

I'd ask a different doctor, if possible.

Or ask the people who supply care animals for some sample letters or phrases to give your doc.

It's true they get busy and don't realize that a catch-phrase means something specific in a field not directly connected to the Latin words for bones. (A social worker at a hospital where I used to work had a bunch of pages like this for required letters for things like senior care center admissions, etc.)

You're probably right, and the word "Pet" was a trigger for the people vetting the letter.

   (The letter-vetters? Oh, dear, a new Dr. Seuss character has appeared in my brain...licking a pencil point and wearing a green eyeshade...)

I agree about cats.

They know your soul.

General Discussion / Re: Dealing with chronic disability, pain, and fatigue
« Last post by smallcleanrat on February 11, 2020, 04:59:50 PM »
Feeling irrationally upset over not being able to have a cat (yet).

I live in student housing with a no-pet policy. Yet the neighborhood teems with people walking dogs and cats peering out of windows. My SO talked to some of the animal owners and they all told him they're emotional support animals (and that it's incredibly easy to get approved for one). My SO and others kept encouraging me to apply for one since I love cats and dogs so much, but I held off for a long time. I was hung up over the requirement that the animal be "necessary" to mitigate the effects/symptoms of a disability. I didn't want to exploit the system by requesting an accommodation I didn't strictly "need".

I've found animals to be a great comfort during bouts of anxiety or pain (there is something about a warm, purring feline that soothes in a way no heating pad ever could); they can also help ground me during times when I am struggling against thoughts of self-harm. But is this a need or a 'would-be-nice'? My SO encouraged me to send in the application and let the housing accommodations committee decide.

The letter I got back from them was not a rejection; it was a request for more information (apparently, my doctor only wrote a very brief, 3-sentence note). They told me they didn't have sufficient info to decide whether I actually had a disability (even though I have records on file with the disability office), or what the cat is actually going to be doing for me. They also took issue with my doctor requesting I be allowed to have a "pet" cat, saying support animals are not pets; pets will not be approved. My doctor's been out of town, so he hasn't responded to my messages asking him if he could write another letter.

It sounds like the issue is just that my doctor needed to be more thorough. I'm reasonably optimistic I will get approval eventually. But I am feeling the same way I've felt every time an insurance provider declines to cover a test or treatment because they don't deem it "necessary": guilty, useless, and weak. Part of me interprets these things as saying "You are not really that sick. You are not suffering that much. You don't need this. You should be able to deal with it on your own. The people who get approved for these things have real issues. You are just wasting everybody's time asking for things you don't deserve." I know this is a foolish overreaction, but I don't know how to turn it off...
General Discussion / Re: the "things you wish you could say" thread
« Last post by Antiphon1 on February 11, 2020, 03:33:24 PM »
Shame on you.  You've blown past hypocrite, bigot, and misogynist.  I hope your crappy behavior earns you the response you deserve.
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