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Re: Post your asides here
« Reply #225 on: August 01, 2020, 10:38:06 AM »
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Get a room, you two.
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Re: Post your asides here
« Reply #226 on: August 07, 2020, 08:25:48 AM »
Should we start a Fight Club thread? 

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Re: Post your asides here
« Reply #227 on: August 07, 2020, 10:31:54 AM »
Should we start a Fight Club thread?

Nah, we got enough of those already!
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Re: Post your asides here
« Reply #228 on: August 07, 2020, 01:34:09 PM »
Should we start a Fight Club thread?

Nah, we got enough of those already!
I believe there was one on the old CHE Forum.

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Re: Post your asides here
« Reply #229 on: August 10, 2020, 01:00:15 PM »
9 Useful Strategies to Dealing with Difficult People at Work on the Fora
Be calm. ...
Understand the person's intentions. ...
Get some perspective from others. ...
Let the person know where you are coming from. ...
Build a rapport. ...
Treat the person with respect. ...
Focus on what can be actioned upon. ...
Ignore.
Take it to a superior.
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Re: Post your asides here
« Reply #230 on: August 10, 2020, 02:35:03 PM »
No.  People who are just wrong and flat out refuse to change do not deserve respect when doubling down on wrong.  The ignore feature is pretty nifty, especially when 'everyone' else is also ignoring so little to nothing is quoted.

If you're going to report, then you have to report something that's actually over a line instead of just 'they said I was wrong and I object to being told I'm wrong.'
Do whatever you want--I'm just the background dancer in your show!

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Re: Post your asides here
« Reply #231 on: August 10, 2020, 03:56:22 PM »
9 Useful Strategies to Dealing with Difficult People at Work on the Fora
Be calm. ...
Understand the person's intentions. ...
Get some perspective from others. ...
Let the person know where you are coming from. ...
Build a rapport. ...
Treat the person with respect. ...
Focus on what can be actioned upon. ...
Ignore.
Take it to a superior.

What I don't think you're considering.... the tenure culture judges your worthiness and intelligence by your ability to cultivate allies, alliances. I do a fair (good enough) job of that in real life. But Mahagonny barely bothers with it. He doesn't have time. He just posts what he thinks.
And BTW, if you haven't figured out that it's unlikely you'll end up with anything in return for tiptoeing around them, you will.
Call me a troll then if that's your inclination.
« Last Edit: August 10, 2020, 04:00:37 PM by mahagonny »
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Re: Post your asides here
« Reply #232 on: August 10, 2020, 04:10:56 PM »
9 Useful Strategies to Dealing with Difficult People at Work on the Fora
Be calm. ...
Understand the person's intentions. ...
Get some perspective from others. ...
Let the person know where you are coming from. ...
Build a rapport. ...
Treat the person with respect. ...
Focus on what can be actioned upon. ...
Ignore.
Take it to a superior.

^ Like.

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Forsake the foolish, and live; and go in the way of understanding.

Reprove not a scorner, lest they hate thee: rebuke the wise, and they will love thee.

Give instruction to the wise, and they will be yet wiser: teach the just, and they will increase in learning.

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Re: Post your asides here
« Reply #233 on: August 16, 2020, 12:37:19 PM »
Surely I'm not the only one who misread that as "pizza"...

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Re: Post your asides here
« Reply #234 on: August 16, 2020, 12:45:03 PM »
9 Useful Strategies to Dealing with Difficult People at Work on the Fora
Be calm. ...
Understand the person's intentions. ...
Get some perspective from others. ...
Let the person know where you are coming from. ...
Build a rapport. ...
Treat the person with respect. ...
Focus on what can be actioned upon. ...
Ignore.
Take it to a superior.

^ Like.

We need healing, not tearing apart at each others' wounds.

M.

Choosing peace by allowing wrong to stand unchallenged is how we allow wrong to continue to flourish and then wonder why wrong seems to be winning.
Do whatever you want--I'm just the background dancer in your show!

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Re: Post your asides here
« Reply #235 on: August 16, 2020, 02:19:12 PM »
9 Useful Strategies to Dealing with Difficult People at Work on the Fora
Be calm. ...
Understand the person's intentions. ...
Get some perspective from others. ...
Let the person know where you are coming from. ...
Build a rapport. ...
Treat the person with respect. ...
Focus on what can be actioned upon. ...
Ignore.
Take it to a superior.

^ Like.

We need healing, not tearing apart at each others' wounds.

M.

Choosing peace by allowing wrong to stand unchallenged is how we allow wrong to continue to flourish and then wonder why wrong seems to be winning.

Polly every night?

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Re: Post your asides here
« Reply #236 on: August 27, 2020, 10:00:49 AM »
(unrelated)

Yes, I totally fed a troll--or perhaps a sea lion. "Here you go, have some fish." Usually I just make myself a sandwich, but sometimes I get a bit ticked off.

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Re: Post your asides here
« Reply #237 on: September 02, 2020, 01:33:12 PM »
Dammit.  You said something I agree with and in a way that wasn't annoying or offensive.

Grrr.  Commencing re-calibration of opinion.....
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Re: Post your asides here
« Reply #238 on: September 03, 2020, 06:46:25 AM »
Nope, nevermind. 

Apparently that was an outlier, a glitch, or a bot.
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Re: Post your asides here
« Reply #239 on: September 04, 2020, 08:59:18 AM »
OMFG!
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