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Title: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: mamselle on June 03, 2019, 05:30:56 PM
My mom, who died two years ago, would have been 94 the day after tomorrow. We didn't have a lot to say, sometimes, but I've been thinking of her this past week. Likewise, my dad, who died several years before that, but had a birthday ten days before hers. Now the house has been sold (last year, in April) there is barely any family presence in the town we all grew up in and (almost all) moved away from.

I'm not feeling particularly sad, or bad, about that, just wondering at it, that it can be true. But it is.

This thread continues from the long-standing RIP thread on the 2006-2019 version of the CHE forum...itself undergoing change.

M.
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: hungry_ghost on June 05, 2019, 03:06:25 PM
A day late, already posted to CHE, but worth posting here as well:
Those who died in the Tian'anmen massacre thirty years ago yesterday.
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Post by: San Joaquin on June 05, 2019, 06:52:29 PM
Leon Redbone has joined the Otherworldly Band.
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Post by: San Joaquin on June 06, 2019, 05:22:34 PM
Oh, shoot.  Dr. John is right there with them, too.

Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: drbrt on June 21, 2019, 08:18:10 AM
I lost my first grandparent that I can remember last week to bladder cancer. (I had a grandfather pass when I was two, but I have no memory of them). The funeral was Wednesday, and I got back last night at about midnight.
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Post by: mamselle on June 21, 2019, 09:00:49 AM
I lost my first grandparent that I can remember last week to bladder cancer. (I had a grandfather pass when I was two, but I have no memory of them). The funeral was Wednesday, and I got back last night at about midnight.

Condolences to you, I'm glad that you had him in your life for so long.

All good thoughts for the days ahead, too. It takes time for grief to become less sharp and overwhelming.

M.
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: drbrt on June 21, 2019, 09:31:07 AM
I lost my first grandparent that I can remember last week to bladder cancer. (I had a grandfather pass when I was two, but I have no memory of them). The funeral was Wednesday, and I got back last night at about midnight.

Condolences to you, I'm glad that you had him in your life for so long.

All good thoughts for the days ahead, too. It takes time for grief to become less sharp and overwhelming.

M.
I actually lost a parent before my first grandparent, which is a little backwards. This was kind of a hard death. Grandma only made it 20 days after the diagnosis of cancer and surgery. Though, sometimes all you can hope for with cancer is that it is fast.
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: bioteacher on June 21, 2019, 08:02:33 PM
I'm very sorry for your loss, drbrt.
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Post by: drbrt on June 22, 2019, 07:40:14 PM
I'm very sorry for your loss, drbrt.
Thanks, bioteacher.
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Post by: archaeo42 on June 28, 2019, 07:19:17 AM
This is a soon to be loss. An undergraduate mentor of mine is in hospice care. I'd been looking forward to reconnecting with them again through some volunteer work. I sent off a note this morning to express how much they'd influenced me and that I appreciated all I'd learned from them. I hope it arrives in time.
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Post by: bioteacher on June 30, 2019, 07:00:06 PM
I hope so, too, Archaeo42. Hugs.
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Post by: reener06 on July 08, 2019, 07:01:07 AM
An old friend from elementary school. We were a close-knit bunch, surviving the horrors of Catholic school together, all 40 of us, for almost 10 years. She and I were in the same group of friends, did sleep-overs, etc., and then went to high school together where we each found different friends. We reconnected on FB, and she had a lovely life, with two daughters, loving husband, a job she liked. Three months ago she was diagnosed with Stage IV pancreatic cancer, which she fought to the end, but a massive stroke took her last week. We're all in a bit of shock. She leaves behind two daughters on the brink of adulthood, and a husband whose last post on caring bridge brought us all to tears. She was a kind, funny, smart person who made the world better. In her memory I spent extra time with my family this week and savored it because she could not. Rest well, Michelle.
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Post by: scamp on July 08, 2019, 09:13:54 AM
I'm so sorry, Reener.
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: drbrt on July 08, 2019, 09:17:33 AM
Sorry for your loss, Reener.
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Post by: Hegemony on July 08, 2019, 03:12:41 PM
I'm so sorry, Reener.
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Post by: bioteacher on July 08, 2019, 03:52:27 PM
Hugs to everyone who knew and loved your friend, Reener.
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Post by: mythbuster on July 09, 2019, 08:09:06 AM
    Farewell to my Great Aunt June, who past away yesterday. She truly lived a remarkable life. She and her brother (my grandfather) were raised by a single father in the 1920s after their mother was committed for depression.  She was the first i the family to attend college, had two daughters, and worked her way up being the dean of girls at a local college. One famous story is her fight to be allowed to wear trousers to work. She was twice a delegate to the DNC national conventions.
     After "retirement" she earned a PhD in psychology, and self published at least 20 books. Most were non-fiction historical analyses that required extensive research.  She was married 4 times and outlived them all. With husband #3 she renovated a Victorian era mansion on 1000 acres in the Napa valley. It was a truly idyllic spot, which led her to take up oil painting. I have one of her oil paintings in my home, and it's beautiful.
    In her 80s she decided she wanted to know more about the law so she applied to law school! The only place that would consider her was an up and coming online law school, so she enrolled there and took many classes, although she never finished that degree.  I'm sure there are other achievements that I'm missing as well.
    My mother visited her just a few months ago and said she was still sharp as a tack, but couldn't keep on weight. Her assessment then of the 2020 DNC field was that Bernie and Joe were too old (!!) and the rest had yet to make an impact on her. June died at home, in her sleep having turned 99 on June 1. May we all be so lucky.
 
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: namazu on July 09, 2019, 09:25:08 AM
Wow, mythbuster!  Great Aunt June sounds like a real dynamo.  Indeed, we should all be so lucky -- and so engaged with life.
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: octoprof on July 09, 2019, 09:28:20 AM
We need more like mythbuster's Great Aunt June!
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Post by: archaeo42 on July 09, 2019, 09:52:51 AM
Wow, what an amazing person your aunt was mythbuster.

Reneer,  I'm sorry about your friend.

My undergrad mentor I mentioned upthread passed away over the holiday weekend. They're gone far too soon.
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: mamselle on July 09, 2019, 10:07:13 AM
All good thoughts and sorrow shared with all who mourn.

I echo the delight in hearing of Jane, and find encouragement in her self-starting initiative in so many fields.

M.
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: reener06 on July 09, 2019, 10:33:24 AM
Wow, myth buster, your aunt is inspiring. Thank you for sharing her story.

Archaeo42, I'm so sorry about your mentor.

Thanks everyone for the condolences. They mean a lot. I had a dream about my friend last night. I think even though we'd lost touch, my friendship with her symbolized a lot about my own coming-of-age, and her death too young has reminded me I'm getting older than I'd like. Hearing Mythbuster's story about her aunt was helpful, in that age is just a number, and to make most of whatever you have.
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Post by: Anselm on July 25, 2019, 10:06:41 PM
Rutger Hauer
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: statsgeek on August 14, 2019, 05:13:20 AM
My mom will be gone 6 years next month. For some reason (new school year?), I'm having more bouts of "I want my mommy" than usual lately. 
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: downer on August 14, 2019, 08:23:46 AM
David Berman, 52, killed himself last Wednesday in a Brooklyn apartment. Son of Richard Berman, a right-wing lawyer, they had a bitter relationship. David was married to Cassie, although their relationship had ended. David was an indie musician and poet, best known for his band the Silver Jews, who were quite big in the 1990s and who existed until 2009. David struggled with depression and mental illness. He took a lot of drugs in his time. He had been living in his record company's offices in Chicago and was preparing for a tour with his new band, Purple Mountains (basically him and some of the members of Woods). They were going to be doing a big tour. There was much anticipation and most of the shows were sold out. He will be mourned by many who loved his music.
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Post by: Bede the Vulnerable on August 17, 2019, 02:54:24 AM
My colleague in the next office, who all but "adopted" me when I came here as a new faculty member, and who died suddenly last year.  He was a source of excellent career advice, and also a source of a lot of laughs when I most needed them.  His office door was always open, literally as well as figuratively.  I miss him like crazy.  (And if he knew that I'd said that, he'd laugh in my face and tell me that my next book idea needs work.)
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Post by: writingprof on August 17, 2019, 08:56:56 AM
David Berman, 52, killed himself last Wednesday in a Brooklyn apartment. Son of Richard Berman, a right-wing lawyer, they had a bitter relationship. David was married to Cassie, although their relationship had ended. David was an indie musician and poet, best known for his band the Silver Jews, who were quite big in the 1990s and who existed until 2009. David struggled with depression and mental illness. He took a lot of drugs in his time. He had been living in his record company's offices in Chicago and was preparing for a tour with his new band, Purple Mountains (basically him and some of the members of Woods). They were going to be doing a big tour. There was much anticipation and most of the shows were sold out. He will be mourned by many who loved his music.

<singing> In 1985, I was hospitalized for approaching perfection.
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Post by: Anselm on September 03, 2019, 05:54:40 AM
https://www.nytimes.com/2019/09/02/sports/franco-columbu-dead.html

One of my childhood athletic heroes and role models.
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Post by: mamselle on September 08, 2019, 08:16:34 PM
For all victims of Hurricane Dorian, in the Bahamas and elsewhere...and for the family members as yet unsure of their loved ones' survival.

M.
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: bioteacher on September 29, 2019, 07:11:54 PM
The spouse of one of our own, at least on the other forum. I can't remember their moniker. Their spouse died suddenly last week and will be greatly missed, not only by the forumite, but by those of us who were friends by proxy. It was far too soon for someone who had far too much life left to live. 
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Post by: paddington_bear on September 30, 2019, 05:17:09 AM
The spouse of one of our own, at least on the other forum. I can't remember their moniker. Their spouse died suddenly last week and will be greatly missed, not only by the forumite, but by those of us who were friends by proxy. It was far too soon for someone who had far too much life left to live.

Her username was octoprof. Her husband was often referred to as Mr. Wondeful on the other board. So heartbreaking.  :(
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: archaeo42 on September 30, 2019, 06:58:48 AM
The spouse of one of our own, at least on the other forum. I can't remember their moniker. Their spouse died suddenly last week and will be greatly missed, not only by the forumite, but by those of us who were friends by proxy. It was far too soon for someone who had far too much life left to live.

Her username was octoprof. Her husband was often referred to as Mr. Wondeful on the other board. So heartbreaking.  :(

This is terrible news. My condolences to Octoprof.
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Post by: clean on September 30, 2019, 08:49:00 AM
I am so saddened to hear this.   
All I can do is send comforting thoughts.
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Post by: Thursday's_Child on September 30, 2019, 09:36:50 AM
I'm so sorry, Octoprof - what a devastating loss!   Memories of Mr. Wonderful will never replace him, but I hope they can provide you some comfort.
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Post by: Biblioeclectica on September 30, 2019, 10:33:35 AM
I'm so sorry to hear about Mr. Wonderful. I'm a long-time lurker and have been wondering how he was doing. Prayers for peace & comfort to Octoprof.
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Post by: mamselle on September 30, 2019, 11:03:00 AM
Oh, no!

They were my dream couple.

Do we know what happened?

I'm very, very, very sorry to hear this.

M.
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: octoprof on September 30, 2019, 12:07:25 PM
Do we know what happened?

He just... stopped. Just in a moment. Keeled over on the sofa. I walked into the living room where he was watching Monty Python's Flying Circus on DVD and I didn't see him sitting in his usual spot (i.e. his head sticking up so I can see it over the back of the sofa). I walked closer and found him slumped over on the sofa sideways as if he'd been really tired and just laid over to exhaustion-nap. But he was unresponsive. I dialed 911, did CPR, and the EMTs came and did CPR and more, but he couldn't be revived.

Probably heart attack or aneurysm or blood clot or something. He looked peaceful. There was no sign of struggling. I like to think he was unaware and his body just went from on to off for some reason. The coroner is still deciding what he's going to do, apparently. it's a rural county and the coroner has to decide if he's going to send the body to another county for autopsy. As of 5pm Friday they hadn't decided. And they haven't been in when I've phoned today. We are planning the funeral for Friday morning assuming his body will be released in the next day or so.

I don't think he suffered. It was just way too soon. So shocking. Like he was violently ripped from our arms even though there was no violence. He was so healthy (good annual check up at the cancer center in August) and fit (still cycling almost every day, training for his next century ride in November, slim and trim, only 54, etc.). We thought he would outlive everyone. I am bereft. Mama is bereft. His Mom is inconsolable. Everyone who loved him is in shock. We are just going on like zombies.

He was truly the best of men. He loved me even when I was unlovable. He never had a harsh word to say to anyone. He never passed up an opportunity to help people. We are at a loss without him. Helpless.
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Post by: ab_grp on September 30, 2019, 01:46:37 PM
My deepest condolences, beloved Octo, to you and to your family.  He does sound like a true Mr. Wonderful.
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Post by: aside on September 30, 2019, 04:28:13 PM
I am so sorry, Octoprof.  My deepest sympathy to you and yours.
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Post by: mahagonny on September 30, 2019, 05:27:34 PM
I am so sorry, Octoprof.  My deepest sympathy to you and yours.

Plus one.
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Post by: BourbonRose on September 30, 2019, 05:41:36 PM
Octoprof, my condolences, too.
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Post by: kaysixteen on September 30, 2019, 07:43:54 PM
Sincerest condolences and prayers to you and yours.
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Post by: wareagle on September 30, 2019, 08:06:24 PM
I am beyond sorry.  What a tragedy.
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Post by: EdnaMode on October 01, 2019, 06:53:03 AM
I'm so sorry Octoprof, my condolences to you and all those who loved Mr. Wonderful.
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Post by: downer on October 01, 2019, 12:13:31 PM
Shocking news. My heart goes out to you Octoprof.
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Post by: blueroses on October 01, 2019, 02:52:56 PM
Octoprof, please know that cgfunmathguy sends his condolences and prayers for peace and comfort for you and all who loved Mr Wonderful. We know how much he loved you and how much you loved him.
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Post by: AmLitHist on October 03, 2019, 06:33:14 AM
I'm so very, very sorry, Octoprof. Take care of yourself.
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Post by: traductio on October 03, 2019, 12:06:40 PM
I'm so sorry to read this -- my deepest and sincerest condolences.
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Post by: paultuttle on October 04, 2019, 05:09:08 AM
I'm so sorry for your loss, Octoprof.
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Post by: bioteacher on October 06, 2019, 05:39:50 PM
We've also lost Infopri. Hugs to all who knew and loved her.
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Post by: mamselle on October 06, 2019, 07:29:08 PM
We've also lost Infopri. Hugs to all who knew and loved her.

Oh, no.

I know she had all the injuries from her accident as well as all the chronic stuff, but I thought she was doing better.

I'm very sorry to hear this.

RIP, InfoPri...

M.

M.
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Post by: hungry_ghost on October 06, 2019, 09:37:48 PM
Oh no, just oh no.
Octoprof, I am so sorry for your unbelievable loss.

Infopri, RIP, and condolences to all ...
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Post by: ursula on October 07, 2019, 06:46:13 AM
We've also lost Infopri. Hugs to all who knew and loved her.

How sad! Infopri was such a valued and valuable member of the Fora community.

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Post by: ab_grp on October 07, 2019, 09:14:14 AM
RIP, Infopri.  So many good and interesting interactions.  I am so sorry to hear about this loss to our community as well.  My condolences to her close friends and family! And hugs all around here.  I think we need them.
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Post by: backatit on October 07, 2019, 10:55:36 AM
Octoprof, I am so sorry.

We just lost our good friend. He was an MD, and one of our regular Thursday board game group. He was a larger than life figure, and his presence is terribly missed. He liked to attend Ren Faires as a pirate (I know :D) and when we were coming home from his funeral, we passed a really BIG pirate ship, all lit up with canons on our street. We both thought we were hallucinating, so we drove around the block for another look. It turns out that our new neighbors decided to go all out for Halloween and were putting up a REALLY big ghost pirate ship (the thing is seriously 10 feet tall by about 20 feet long, and is REALLY realistic- now I can't wait to meet them). It was just so fitting...
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Post by: octoprof on October 09, 2019, 10:38:57 AM
We just lost our good friend. He was an MD, and one of our regular Thursday board game group. He was a larger than life figure, and his presence is terribly missed. He liked to attend Ren Faires as a pirate (I know :D) and when we were coming home from his funeral, we passed a really BIG pirate ship, all lit up with canons on our street. We both thought we were hallucinating, so we drove around the block for another look. It turns out that our new neighbors decided to go all out for Halloween and were putting up a REALLY big ghost pirate ship (the thing is seriously 10 feet tall by about 20 feet long, and is REALLY realistic- now I can't wait to meet them). It was just so fitting...

I'm so sorry, backatit, but I'm glad you saw a good sign. Those are going to be fun neighbors.
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Post by: ab_grp on October 09, 2019, 11:16:37 AM
Adding my sympathies on your loss, Backatit.  And I agree, it seems like a sign and a great one.  Those kinds of things provide a ray of hope even in times of such loss. 
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Post by: nucleo on October 09, 2019, 04:39:04 PM
Oh, Octo, I am so sorry.  How heartbreaking this news is about Mr. Wonderful.

And my condolences also to backatit and everyone who knew Infopri.
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Post by: nescafe on October 12, 2019, 07:12:27 PM
I've been absent from these fora for a few weeks, but just logged in to do some PMs. My little brother (in his thirties) died in a motor vehicle accident very recently. I'm totally devastated and feeling like my life has lost its rudder. I haven't been sleeping effectively. And for a lot of reasons linked to the circumstances within which we grew up together (mostly familial abuse), I'm really angry with the world for the unfairness that his life ended well before it got to the good part.

I just needed to share that. Thanks.
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Post by: namazu on October 12, 2019, 07:18:48 PM
I'm so sorry, Nescafe.
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Post by: bioteacher on October 12, 2019, 07:22:55 PM
Nescafe, I am so very sorry to hear of your devastating loss. Please seek out some sort of counseling when you are ready. You are a survivor of so much, and the scabs and scars that helped you function have been ripped open with this terrible loss. Getting the right support to help you process this all might make the road forward a bit less awful. Hugs and love to you. 
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Post by: mamselle on October 12, 2019, 08:57:52 PM
I've been absent from these fora for a few weeks, but just logged in to do some PMs. My little brother (in his thirties) died in a motor vehicle accident very recently. I'm totally devastated and feeling like my life has lost its rudder. I haven't been sleeping effectively. And for a lot of reasons linked to the circumstances within which we grew up together (mostly familial abuse), I'm really angry with the world for the unfairness that his life ended well before it got to the good part.

I just needed to share that. Thanks.

Thinking of you. And him.

M.
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Post by: ab_grp on October 13, 2019, 11:41:14 AM
Sending my condolences to you, Nescafe.   What a terrible loss to suffer.  Take care.
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Post by: aside on October 14, 2019, 05:05:44 AM
I am so sorry for your tragic loss, Nescafe.
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Post by: paultuttle on October 14, 2019, 12:01:19 PM
My deepest condolences to you, nescafe.
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Post by: AmLitHist on October 15, 2019, 06:53:01 AM
I'm so sorry, nescafe.

Literary critic Harold Bloom (https://www.nytimes.com/2019/10/14/books/harold-bloom-dead.html?action=click&module=Well&pgtype=Homepage&section=Obituaries) has died.
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Post by: ab_grp on October 15, 2019, 08:08:08 AM
I don't have the background to comment on Harold Bloom's work and the criticism of or praise for it, but I did have the opportunity to have dinner with him and his family once.  Definitely an interesting character and very learned, and we had quite the discussion.  He was larger than life, and it is strange to think about him being gone. 
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Post by: secundem_artem on November 19, 2019, 07:08:18 PM
My fieldwork & clinical practice site is in Central America where I work with a small NGO.  The staff there were led by Mr. Rudy who was the main driver for mobiles out to the villages and as I called him, "our roving ambassador of goodwill." He was well known in the community and everybody knew and liked him.  i last saw him in September and was greeted by his usual "Hi Doc!" and we chatted a bit.  I just found out Mr Rudy had a heart attack and died.  I can't tell you how sad that makes me.  Bumping along in a Toyota Land Cruiser over a lousy road on the way to Barranco will never be the same.  Peace friend - we are all going to miss you.
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Post by: larryc on November 19, 2019, 09:19:45 PM
My mom died in September. She was 93.

When mom graduated from high school in 1946 she bought a car and she and three of her girlfriends drove around the county. They stayed in cheap motels and saw the national parks and the Rocky Mountains and the Pacific Ocean. They had crackers and cheese and sometimes tuna fish for three meals a day. She talked about it her whole life.

Mom worked hard to provide us with as good a childhood as she could. Dad drank and was intermittently employed. I remember so many Saturday trips growing up, mom would pack sandwiches and we'd get in the Falcon station wagon and go to some state park or museum or historic site. One time when I was maybe 9 or 10 I saw a newspaper article about some Chinese bronzes being exhibited at a university on the other side of the state and mom drove me out there to look at them. She waited in the car, I realize now because she did not have enough money to pay a second admission charge. I am just realizing that now.

She worked mostly as a bookkeeper after my parents divorced. When she was in her fifties her boss asked her what she had for retirement. It was not much, just a small nest egg from the sale of our family house. He convinced her to let him invest it. I know what you are thinking, but it turns out he was some kind of genius in this regard, and against all odds, she retired comfortably.

Mom used her retirement to do all of the travel she had been unable to do. She found a tour company she liked and made a circle of friends and they went on adventures together. The Castles of Ireland and Scotland was one tour. The Great Rivers of Europe Cruise. The Great Wall of China. Canadian Maritimes Cruise. Highlights of Eastern Europe. One summer she met up with one of my distant great aunts who had an RV and they drove most of the West Coast. She visited me in different National Parks where I worked, in grad school in Washington State and Virginia, and at our home in Washington numerous times. She took Amtrak across the country to visit two years ago, getting a sleeper berth.

I say retirement, but she never quite retired. She'd work for a tax accountant every February-March to help with the rush. She got a part-time job at a small retirement community and ended up running the place for a number of years. She returned to the part-time job and did that until last year. Sometimes I'd call her and ask what she had going on. "Oh I am going to see the old people this weekend," she'd say.

I saw mom in August, a month before she died. She was fading, she had difficulty walking and her hearing was terrible. We were able to go on a lighthouse tour of Long Island Sound, which she really enjoyed. She had hearing aids but refused to wear them. "You really mumble!" she told me. "You've always mumbled but it has gotten a lot worse!"

My older sister is going through mom's things. Yesterday I got an envelope from her, stuffed with newspaper clippings about me and report cards of mine that mom had saved. I teared up for the first time since she died.
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Post by: namazu on November 19, 2019, 09:45:18 PM
Larry, what a lovely tribute to MomC. May her memory be a source of comfort to you.

Secundem Artem, I'm sorry for your loss and that of all who knew Mr. Rudy.
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Post by: aside on November 20, 2019, 05:08:06 AM
Beautiful post, LarryC.  Your mother sounds like the salt of the earth.  I am sorry for your loss.

Secundem_artem, my condolences for the loss of Mr. Rudy.  I hope we have all been fortunate enough to have encountered someone like him in our endeavors.
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Post by: mamselle on November 20, 2019, 07:15:11 AM
Agree.

Larryc, your mom sounds like a wise captain of the ship that was her life, and yours.

Mr. Rudy reminds me of the jocular camp caretaker where I had my first job as a counselor...lived blessings, both of them.

M.
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Post by: ciao_yall on November 20, 2019, 07:16:49 AM
larryc may her memory be a blessing and a source of comfort to you.
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Post by: bioteacher on November 20, 2019, 07:26:13 PM
I'm very sorry for your loss, Larry. Thank you for sharing those memories with us.

Grief is not linear and it isn't scripted. There is no Right Way to grieve, only the right way for you. Some find the tears don't stop, others discover they cry infrequently but have other outlets. Please don't feel guilty for crying/not crying. She loved you and was proud of you. Your grief journey is as unique as the woman she was. Hugs.

Secundem_artem, Mr. Rudy clearly made an impression on many who had the pleasure of crossing his path. Thank you for letting us get to know him a little bit. We are so blessed by so many people we only meet in passing. Your post is a reminder to be thankful for them when and where we find them.
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Post by: Anselm on January 10, 2020, 03:39:14 PM
Neil Peart, drummer for Rush, age 67.
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Post by: ursula on January 28, 2020, 09:15:32 AM
Not sure if this is the right place, but it's something I have to say today:  it's the anniversary of my dad's death, and even though it was 49 years ago and I was a little tiny sprout, I still mind.
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Post by: fleabite on January 28, 2020, 09:25:07 AM
I'm so sorry. That's a loss that never leaves you.
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Post by: 0susanna on January 28, 2020, 09:46:01 AM
RIP for a professor who mentored me when I got my first FT job 30 years ago. She knew all the ways of the private university, and had seen it all as a single female academic in a culture that prioritized masculinity. Students respected and feared her--she did not suffer fools gladly--but she was always generous with her time, hospitality, and advice when requested.
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Post by: clean on January 28, 2020, 09:55:41 AM
Today is the anniversary of my best friend and coworker's death as well.

Sorry for your loss.
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Post by: mamselle on January 28, 2020, 02:49:05 PM
And there's a separate thread started, but I'll add Kobe Bryant, his daughter, and the others on that flight here as well.

RIP.

M.
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Post by: Bbmaj7b5 on February 02, 2020, 02:38:26 PM
Andy Gill, 64, influential guitarist for the Gang of Four, of pneumonia. I cannot overstate his influence on my own guitar playing in the early 80's, when I was trying to emulate Ritchie Blackmore and Eddie Van Halen and failing miserably. I saw the Gang of Four at a big festival in the California desert in 1982. They played for 45 minutes but it's both vivid in memory and ephemeral. Hugo Burnham behind the drum kit, smiling improbably at the bassist Sara Lee as their interlocking rhythm parts pushed the machine forward. Edi Reader on percussion, giving the machine a kick once every 4 bars. Jon King, sweating through his shirt, exhorting the crowd to action. And there was Andy Gill, in gray blazer and matching trousers, looking like an extra from a film noir, zooming across the stage with his Stratocaster, extracting ungodly howls from it in between razor sharp staccato shards of pure treble and lead lines that sound what someone would play while being tortured. It was terrifying, and perfect.

Johnny Greenwood, Tom Morello and Kurt Cobain took notes, for sure. His playing is still there somewhere in the stew of influences that inform what I play every time I pick up a guitar.
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Post by: paultuttle on February 03, 2020, 06:02:53 AM
My husband's mother's birthday was January 31. She died at a very early age (early 40s) of a sudden stroke. The family had to decide both to put her on life support and then to take her off of it.

He has been alternately quiet and voluble while continuing to process his grief.

I'm so glad he was able to visit her grave when we were there in December; he hadn't been able to handle it for nearly two decades, but now he can, so it was a healing experience.
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Post by: apl68 on February 03, 2020, 07:41:06 AM
Only moments ago we learned that a regular library patron had just been found dead in her home.  She had been dealing with various medical issues, but this was still very sudden.  Though I did not know her personally, it has been a great shock to her family and friends, and library staff who did know her.
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Post by: mamselle on February 03, 2020, 07:44:01 AM
I'm sorry for your community's loss.

Sometimes the library is the last community some folks have, in fact.

M.
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Post by: reener06 on February 03, 2020, 08:37:51 AM
I had a horrible semester and missed so many notices on this board. My deepest condolences to Octoprof and Nescafe and LarryC and others. And infopri is gone? I'm so, so sorry.

And I logged on in part for this: My 59 year old BIL died of cancer Saturday, too young. Really healthy guy who ignored symptoms for a year. Didn't like doctors. He fought it over a year after diagnosis came, but it was Stage IV by then. He seemed to have found peace in the end. He was hard to like, honestly, and so I have mostly not-good memories of him, but we saw him in October and his hardness seemed gone, and he seemed more accepting of people, and actually was supportive of me and my hard semester. This, after a lifetime of us on opposite political, moral, and pretty much every other sphere of life. He leaves 10 children and my sister, who is devastated. Heading to be with them in a few days for the funeral. The children are all almost grown--the youngest is 12, the oldest 32, and they just had their first grandchild. This is not how my sister envisaged her later years.
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Post by: mamselle on February 03, 2020, 04:50:49 PM
As Octo said once...

"Too much death."

I'm so sorry for your family's loss.

M.
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Post by: clean on February 07, 2020, 02:06:51 PM
 Dr. Li Wenliang, 34, was the doctor that was arrested by Chinese police for 'spreading rumors' to his chat group of former classmates about what is now the Coronavirus. 

If the coronavirus is able to kill otherwise healthy 34 year olds, then perhaps there are many more deaths to be reported.
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Post by: bacardiandlime on February 08, 2020, 06:34:13 AM
Orson Bean was hit by a car and killed in LA, aged 91. RIP
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Post by: hmaria1609 on February 08, 2020, 07:31:05 PM
Orson Bean was hit by a car and killed in LA, aged 91. RIP
He was the voice of Bilbo Baggins in the 1977 "The Hobbit" animated movie.  I remember his role as Loren Bray, a merchant owner, in "Dr. Quinn, Medicine Woman" for 6 seasons during the '90s.
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Post by: clean on February 08, 2020, 08:17:03 PM
Robert Conrad died today.
I remember him as James West in  Wild Wild West, Pappy Boyington in Black Sheep Squadren and in a few Columbo Mysteries of the Week. 
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Post by: traductio on February 08, 2020, 08:26:22 PM
The literary scholar George Steiner (https://www.theguardian.com/culture/2020/feb/08/george-steiner-appreciation-stellar-polymath) died on Feb. 3. When I was first getting to know translation studies, the field where I now publish most, despite it not being the field in which I am formally trained, I read his After Babel. I did not care for the book, but I keep returning to it. Even now, something keeps drawing me back, despite myself. That is perhaps the highest compliment I can pay a scholarly work -- it was considerably more than it first appeared.
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Post by: apl68 on February 18, 2020, 08:07:51 AM
Yesterday I attended the funeral of a dear friend from back home.  She was a member of my parents' church.  She wasn't blood-kin, but was like family.  She never married and had little living family of her own.  She was born with a withered right arm.  Her parents raised her to go ahead and do pretty much everything that anybody else could do.  She delivered newspapers and did odd jobs for a living, raised her own vegetables, hunted for her own meat, and cut her own firewood.  She was also an excellent amateur naturalist and nature photographer.  We used to ride around the back roads in the hills looking for wildflowers.  I guess when I was growing up she was sort of like a really cool aunt.

Despite her own challenges, she was always of help to elderly neighbors and others who needed it.  When her own health failed she went into a nursing home, and seeing to her care became mainly the responsibility of our own family.  Since I no longer lived nearby, it was mainly my mother who visited her several times a week and made sure she was probably cared for.  Mom saw to it that she continued to have a chance to see birds and other glimpses of nature.

She was 86.  The funeral was a simple graveside service.  Dad, who has pastored the church for nearly four decades, conducted the service.  He had a hard time getting through it.  For my part, I have a hard time feeling too sorry for her.  She had a long and remarkably full life, and is now finally free to go on to a better place to be with God.  It was a privilege to have known her while she was here.
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Post by: ciao_yall on February 18, 2020, 08:58:30 AM
She was 86.  The funeral was a simple graveside service.  Dad, who has pastored the church for nearly four decades, conducted the service.  He had a hard time getting through it.  For my part, I have a hard time feeling too sorry for her.  She had a long and remarkably full life, and is now finally free to go on to a better place to be with God.  It was a privilege to have known her while she was here.

Exactly. To a life well-lived. (Clink)
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Post by: backatit on March 03, 2020, 01:06:15 PM
Oh man. I lost a good friend. She was fairly young, in her 60's, and probably one of the most vital people I know. She was an avid horseback rider, and had retired from that and had taken up a new passion, scuba diving, and was getting quite skilled (her husband died a couple of years ago and she was head over heels in love with a new guy who was an avid diver, and she was SO happy; had sold her farm and moved in with him on his boat, and they were fixing it up together). She was on a dive on Sunday, and had a medical event while diving (they believe a heart attack).

She had the heartiest laugh I've ever heard. I will really miss her.

To top things off, I had just heard about it, and we found our old golden retriever laying out in the yard, near death. We rushed him to the e-vet, and he had a large tumor on his spleen that had ruptured, and he had lost so much blood. We ended up having to put him to sleep. Yesterday was a really rough day, and I am sad. Our three other dogs seem kind of lost. He was old, but still really playful and in really good shape (he swam a lot and was really healthy). The day before I was playing with him in the yard throwing a stick. I know we were lucky - many Goldens don't live into their teens in such good shape (no hip issues; I credit our pond and his daily swims and the fact that he was a good weight despite my partner's best efforts). I know we were lucky he didn't suffer long, and that he didn't have a long downhill slope. He was really, really good and pain free up till his last day. It just seems a bit much, you know?
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Post by: smallcleanrat on March 03, 2020, 01:45:20 PM
Oh man. I lost a good friend. She was fairly young, in her 60's, and probably one of the most vital people I know. She was an avid horseback rider, and had retired from that and had taken up a new passion, scuba diving, and was getting quite skilled (her husband died a couple of years ago and she was head over heels in love with a new guy who was an avid diver, and she was SO happy; had sold her farm and moved in with him on his boat, and they were fixing it up together). She was on a dive on Sunday, and had a medical event while diving (they believe a heart attack).

She had the heartiest laugh I've ever heard. I will really miss her.

To top things off, I had just heard about it, and we found our old golden retriever laying out in the yard, near death. We rushed him to the e-vet, and he had a large tumor on his spleen that had ruptured, and he had lost so much blood. We ended up having to put him to sleep. Yesterday was a really rough day, and I am sad. Our three other dogs seem kind of lost. He was old, but still really playful and in really good shape (he swam a lot and was really healthy). The day before I was playing with him in the yard throwing a stick. I know we were lucky - many Goldens don't live into their teens in such good shape (no hip issues; I credit our pond and his daily swims and the fact that he was a good weight despite my partner's best efforts). I know we were lucky he didn't suffer long, and that he didn't have a long downhill slope. He was really, really good and pain free up till his last day. It just seems a bit much, you know?

backatit, I'm so sorry for your losses. Everything about the suddenness and the pile-on timing is so harsh. I know there's nothing I can say that would make your situation any less painful, but I'll be thinking of you and hoping you find comfort soon. Best wishes.
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Post by: Hegemony on March 04, 2020, 03:44:17 AM
Traductio, this is just a triviality in the midst of all this loss, but I used to know George Steiner's dog-sitter. George and Mrs. Steiner would call the dog every day from wherever he was in the world. FWIW.
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Post by: apl68 on March 04, 2020, 06:40:40 AM
MY father's sister died last Sunday evening.  She had only just gone into hospice a couple of days earlier.  They had moved out of state to be close to one of their daughters, and we didn't hear about her hospice until the day before she died.  She was lucid until nearly the end, and had a chance to say goodbye to each of her children and grandchildren one at a time.  She was 81.  Neither Dad nor her other brothers will be able to make her funeral today, due to distance, weather, and their own medical issues.
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Post by: 0susanna on March 07, 2020, 08:58:02 AM
This week I remember two unfortunately juxtaposed deaths: My ex, who, within the year after the divorce, was diagnosed with cancer and then died; and my mother, who died of natural causes several years later. I remember and miss them both in very different ways.
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Post by: traductio on March 07, 2020, 11:40:37 AM
My condolences to everyone, and wishes for strength to all of you.

I'm posting this here because it's the best place for it, except that it's not a loss. On the contrary, although it involves one.

My grandpa (my dad's dad) died long before I was born. He was 42. My dad was in college and it affected him deeply, so much so that when he was 42, I know it was constantly on his mind. Last week, I turned 43, and there was a sense of relief in my dad's voice (he's now pushing 70) when I talked to him on my birthday. I hadn't talked about it either, but it had been on my mind, too.

Traductio, this is just a triviality in the midst of all this loss, but I used to know George Steiner's dog-sitter. George and Mrs. Steiner would call the dog every day from wherever he was in the world. FWIW.

That's actually kind of sweet!
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Post by: AmLitHist on May 09, 2020, 10:06:01 AM
Rock n roll legend Little Richard (https://www.nytimes.com/2020/05/09/arts/music/little-richard-dead.html), age 87.
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Post by: clean on May 11, 2020, 12:56:08 PM
Jerry Stiller

Comic legend Jerry Stiller has passed away, his son, Ben Stiller, announced on May 11. Jerry, largely famous for playing George Costanza's dad in "Seinfeld," was 92. "I'm sad to say that my father, Jerry Stiller, passed away from natural causes," Ben tweeted. "He was a great dad and grandfather, and the most dedicated husband to Anne for about 62 years. He will be greatly missed. Love you Dad." Jerry, who had a career spanning six decades, left an indelible mark on Hollywood.
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Post by: AJ_Katz on May 12, 2020, 11:38:41 AM
Oh man. I lost a good friend. She was fairly young, in her 60's, and probably one of the most vital people I know. She was an avid horseback rider, and had retired from that and had taken up a new passion, scuba diving, and was getting quite skilled (her husband died a couple of years ago and she was head over heels in love with a new guy who was an avid diver, and she was SO happy; had sold her farm and moved in with him on his boat, and they were fixing it up together). She was on a dive on Sunday, and had a medical event while diving (they believe a heart attack).

She had the heartiest laugh I've ever heard. I will really miss her.

To top things off, I had just heard about it, and we found our old golden retriever laying out in the yard, near death. We rushed him to the e-vet, and he had a large tumor on his spleen that had ruptured, and he had lost so much blood. We ended up having to put him to sleep. Yesterday was a really rough day, and I am sad. Our three other dogs seem kind of lost. He was old, but still really playful and in really good shape (he swam a lot and was really healthy). The day before I was playing with him in the yard throwing a stick. I know we were lucky - many Goldens don't live into their teens in such good shape (no hip issues; I credit our pond and his daily swims and the fact that he was a good weight despite my partner's best efforts). I know we were lucky he didn't suffer long, and that he didn't have a long downhill slope. He was really, really good and pain free up till his last day. It just seems a bit much, you know?

It's totally too much.  These things shouldn't happen, but sometimes they do.  It's also unfortunate that most of society does not recognize what a blow it can be to lose a beloved pet.  My condolences.
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Post by: Bbmaj7b5 on May 26, 2020, 03:23:04 AM
Jimmy Cobb, (https://www.theguardian.com/music/2020/may/25/jimmy-cobb-dead-miles-davis-kind-of-blue) the drummer who powered the classic Miles Davis album Kind of Blue, age 91. He was the last surviving musician on that album, which featured Davis, Cobb, John Coltrane, Bill Evans, Cannonball Adderley, Paul Chambers, and Wynton Kelly.

Cobb, Kelly and Chambers also formed a traveling rhythm section backing up soloists. They were behind Wes Montgomery when he recorded Live at the Half-Note, his most celebrated recording.
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Post by: secundem_artem on June 07, 2020, 07:05:37 PM
Steve Priest - Bassist for glam band The Sweet in the 70's.  They had a number of hits back in the day - Little Willie, The Ballroom Blitz, Fox on the Run, Action, Love is Like Oxygen.
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Post by: mamselle on June 07, 2020, 07:35:14 PM
We didn't actually add George Floyd here (1974-2020).

   https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/name/george-floyd-obituary?pid=196288691

There will be a public visitation in Houston, where he was raised, tomorrow, June 8; a private funeral will be held there on the 9th.

RIP.

M.
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Post by: AmLitHist on June 30, 2020, 08:16:43 AM
One of the most brilliant minds in his field, comedian Carl Reiner (https://www.nytimes.com/2020/06/30/arts/television/carl-reiner-dead.html?action=click&module=Alert&pgtype=Homepage), aged 98. His work from the Sid Caesar and Dick Van Dyke shows still holds up.
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Post by: mamselle on June 30, 2020, 08:28:41 AM
++1

He was one of the first names of a writer for a TV show that I remembered...I realized his input had something to do with the solidity of the actors' work...he gave them good material to work from and let them go ahead and do it.

M.
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Post by: hmaria1609 on June 30, 2020, 01:40:10 PM
The great British actor Sir Ian Holm:
https://tellyvisions.org/2020/06/23/remembering-sir-ian-holm (https://tellyvisions.org/2020/06/23/remembering-sir-ian-holm)
The accomplished actor performed on stage, TV, and movies.
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Post by: secundem_artem on July 14, 2020, 10:32:32 AM
Grant Imahara from Mythbusters.  Dead from an aneurysm at age 49.  He made nerds and science look cool.  He got paid to do what every teenage boy wants to do - blow stuff up.  He also built stuff but he filled the deep need for destruction built into teenage boy's DNA.

https://www.nytimes.com/2020/07/14/arts/television/grant-imahara-dead.html?action=click&module=Latest&pgtype=Homepage

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Post by: jimbogumbo on July 14, 2020, 01:20:41 PM
Grant Imahara from Mythbusters.  Dead from an aneurysm at age 49.  He made nerds and science look cool.  He got paid to do what every teenage boy wants to do - blow stuff up.  He also built stuff but he filled the deep need for destruction built into teenage boy's DNA.

https://www.nytimes.com/2020/07/14/arts/television/grant-imahara-dead.html?action=click&module=Latest&pgtype=Homepage

I'm pretty juvenile, but have never been into blowing stuff up. I don't think I'm alone in saying that I really enjoyed the way Grant (and Kari and Tory) measured stuff. That is what I really like about the guy on Youtube (don't have the reference at hand) who tried to determine which bird feeders could fend off squirrels. My wannabe engineering granddaughter am I are enthralled by his channel.

RIP to Grant indeed.
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Post by: mamselle on July 15, 2020, 06:28:21 PM
I've just heard, belatedly, of a good, dear friend's death.

RIP Rupert.

I'll have to return to Vezelay for you, I'd always hoped you would do it yourself.

M.
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Post by: AmLitHist on July 18, 2020, 07:15:37 AM
Representative John Lewis (https://www.nytimes.com/2020/07/17/us/john-lewis-dead.html), age 80, from cancer. A humble giant of conscience.
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Post by: Harlow2 on July 20, 2020, 06:54:11 AM
My wonderful dog walker and then cat sitter (for almost a decade) about whom I cared very much, and one other,  both in the same week.
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Post by: mamselle on July 20, 2020, 07:26:39 AM
Condolences to all who are grieving, including those for whom a significant anniversary is looming.

M.
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Post by: AmLitHist on July 26, 2020, 11:53:07 AM
Olivia de Haviland (https://www.nytimes.com/2020/07/26/movies/olivia-de-havilland-dead.html?action=click&module=Well&pgtype=Homepage&section=Obituaries), aged 104, in Paris.  Several news outlets ran photos of her riding a bicycle on her July 1 birthday.   

The films she did with Errol Flynn are still wonderful to see (esp. as the gutsy niece of the governor in Captain Blood, made when she was only 18 or 19). She's about the last one left of Old Hollywood.  Rest in peace.
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Post by: sinenomine on July 26, 2020, 12:04:37 PM
Olivia de Haviland (https://www.nytimes.com/2020/07/26/movies/olivia-de-havilland-dead.html?action=click&module=Well&pgtype=Homepage&section=Obituaries), aged 104, in Paris.  Several news outlets ran photos of her riding a bicycle on her July 1 birthday.   

The films she did with Errol Flynn are still wonderful to see (esp. as the gutsy niece of the governor in Captain Blood, made when she was only 18 or 19). She's about the last one left of Old Hollywood.  Rest in peace.

An absolute favorite.
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Post by: apl68 on August 01, 2020, 09:22:48 AM
Today is the fourth anniversary of the death of Karen, our library's former part-time janitor.  Karen had not had an easy time of it.  She had a good education and did pretty well with her husband for some years.  Then they fell on hard times.  Their daughter went off the rails.  When I knew her, Karen was serving as the single mother to her teenage granddaughter.  Our local economy being what it had become, she was having to get by cleaning houses and serving as our part-time library janitor. 

Thanks to care and frugality, and some help from their church, Karen was able to give her granddaughter a good life.  Somebody set them up with a house to live in.  Karen was well-read, and encouraged her girl to take pleasure in reading.  She was good at making low-cost fun and craft stuff.  She was an interesting person to talk to.  She was a friend as well as a staff member.

Four years ago, two youths broke into her house early in the morning and shot Karen and her granddaughter.  Karen died.  The granddaughter played dead until the assailants left, then made her way to a nearby police station.  The bullet that lodged in her neck only just missed killing her.  It's still there--the doctors determined that it was too dangerous to remove.  An uncle and aunt in another state took her in.  She has been doing okay.

Karen and her granddaughter were two white women living in an overwhelmingly black neighborhood.  The youths who gunned them down were black.  Ostensibly it was a robbery, but they took very little.  There was very little to steal (They took a cell phone, which was immediately traced and led to their arrest.  It was a very open-and-shut case).  Their targeting of the only white household in the neighborhood...well, it's hard to believe it was a coincidence.  Had the skin colors of victims, attackers, and neighborhood been reversed, this would without a doubt have been labeled a hate crime, and gotten national headlines for weeks.  But the victims were white, so it was nothing but a run-of-the-mill home invasion.

I wish everybody here could have seen Karen's funeral.  The crime shocked and appalled our whole community.  There was no race-baiting or rioting.  Black and white members of the community came together to mourn and celebrate the life of a sister in Christ who had become a victim of this world's wickedness.  Karen's pastor preached a sermon from Proverbs chapter 24:

"Do not lie in wait against the dwelling of the righteous, O wicked man.  For though the righteous fall seven times, yet will he rise, but the wicked will fall into disaster. 
"Do not rejoice when your enemy falls, or be glad when he stumbles, lest the Lord see it and be displeased.
"Do not fret because of evildoers, nor be envious of the wicked;
"For there will be no future for the evil man: the lamp of the wicked will be put out."

The pastor spoke of how we can't know why God allowed such a crime to befall somebody who had spent a difficult life trying to do nothing but good.  What we did know is that Karen knew and served Jesus, and so is now safe from all evil.  Those of us who are left behind are the ones with responsibility--responsibility to thank God for Karen and her life, to care for her granddaughter who survived her, and to extend forgiveness and prayer toward those who murdered her, in hopes that they will come to Jesus and escape the just wrath of God for their actions.  It was an uplifting time for all of us who were there.

Somehow in the last couple of  years it has become controversial to say "All lives matter."  But they do.  Karen's life mattered for a great deal.
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Post by: Harlow2 on August 12, 2020, 06:26:48 AM
Two in one week: A dear colleague and the mother of my son’s significant other.  These follow the two from several weeks ago.
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Post by: ab_grp on August 15, 2020, 10:17:51 AM
I found out that my uncle passed away a few days ago (peacefully).  It has hit me a little harder than I expected.  He was not a spry young chicken by any means (in his 80s) but always seemed so vital and strong to me.  Still, it was bound to happen eventually.  He was my dad's "Irish twin" of sorts, although my dad was born a year and a day after him, so I supposed that does not technically count, although they were always very close.  They lost their sister to an unfortunate accident before I was born and their younger brother when I was in my early 20s.  My dad passed away about 20 years ago, and my uncle, the oldest, was the last of their group.  It's weird to think about.  My uncle was an interesting guy.  He had a lot of his body replaced due to a severe accident a long time ago but was a power lifter and, as far as I know, remained one up until not too long ago.  But, my aunt (absolute love of his life) passed away a few years ago, and I guess it was his time to join her.  I was just thinking about him last week and wish I had reached out.  Too late, per usual, but at least it seems to have brought the family back into touch, at least temporarily.
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Post by: notmycircus on August 15, 2020, 02:43:04 PM
Condolences, ab_grp. 
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Post by: ab_grp on August 15, 2020, 03:02:03 PM
Condolences, ab_grp.

Thank you! This is a sad thread, but it is so nice to be able to memorialize those we love, admire, and will miss in the world.
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Post by: mamselle on August 15, 2020, 04:40:20 PM
Yes, peace to you.

M.
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Post by: clean on September 18, 2020, 04:52:49 PM
Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg.
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Post by: mamselle on September 18, 2020, 06:22:43 PM
Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg.

Oh, no.

Baruch Dayan HaEmet, careful one.

M.
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Post by: Bud on September 19, 2020, 01:02:12 AM
Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg.

What an amazing woman! What an icon! A life well lived.
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Post by: writingprof on September 19, 2020, 11:03:28 AM
Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg.

What an amazing woman! What an icon! A life well lived.

She had the tenacity of Satan himself.  Even I admired her.
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Post by: mouseman on September 24, 2020, 02:37:37 PM
My father-in-law, the Catwoman's father. It was at the end of July.

It was pretty sudden - he was feeling a bit ill, and when the doctor visited he passed out. He was taken to the hospital and they discovered that he had a massive internal infection which had been almost symptomless. He passed away without regaining conscience.

Up to that point, he had been pretty healthy - they lived on the third floor, no elevator, and he had just started going up and down again (after not doing so for a couple of months due to the quarantine)

He was 87 years old, and had survived his family fleeing the Nazis and being refugees, then losing his father, a high ranking officer during the war, to Stalin's purges.

He lost two sisters, one when she was young to a car accident, and the other to Soviet medicine just before the family immigrated to Israel.

An intellectual, he was never able to defend his thesis, because he was a Jew (that was the specific reason given to him - "our quita of Jews has defended). He finally gave up, and started a business with a friend churning out theses for others. If any of you has ever interviewed somebody with a PhD from the USSR from the 1980s, there is a non-negligible chance that it was written by the Catwoman's father.

He worked as a high school teacher, and as a manager at assorted jobs. He would move to a new position, be promoted until he reached the highest level that a Jew could hold, and then move on to a new position.

He was very smart, but had a total inability to learn new languages, despite having an amazing facility with Russian.

On the other hand, all he needed was a couple of hours, and he could give an engaging talk on any possible topic under the sun. He worked as a volunteer tour guide for the Jewish sites and history of Vilnius, and gave many talks to different Russian tour groups and immigrants while in Israel.

He raised two daughters as a failed chauvinist. He would ever so often make claims about women could or couldn't do, and then encouraged and supported his daughters, second wife, step daughters, and granddaughter to do exactly those things that he claimed that women couldn't do.

He had an enormous appetite for life, and, despite many hardships, was always able to find things to enjoy. Despite always having been a heavyset man, he was light on his feet, and excellent dancer, and had been a mountain climber and a high level fencer.

His first marriage was not happy for the most part, and, luckily, his daughters were able to convince him that a divorce was a good idea. He married better (for him) the second time, and was happily married for more than 20 years.

He was extremely proud of the Catwoman, of her sister, and his grandkids, but was unfortunately unable to meet his first great grandson because of the pandemic.

The Catwoman was unable to travel to Israel for either the funeral or the revealing of the headstone, but her nephew was able to connect her via FB live to both. She will hopefully be able to travel there for the first Yahrzeit. It was also good that the Mouselet was still home, so both of us were here to support her.
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Post by: ab_grp on September 24, 2020, 04:01:14 PM
I'm sorry to hear about your father-in-law, Mouseman.  He sounds amazing.  My deepest condolences to the three of you and your extended family.
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Post by: Vkw10 on September 24, 2020, 06:53:51 PM
My sympathies to you and your family on your loss, Mouseman.
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Post by: aside on September 24, 2020, 07:29:55 PM
I am sorry for your loss, Mouseman.  What a life!
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Post by: ciao_yall on September 24, 2020, 08:48:29 PM
May his memory be a blessing.
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Post by: secundem_artem on October 06, 2020, 01:14:08 PM
Eddie Van Halen dead at 65 from cancer.  One hell of a guitar player.
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Post by: fishbrains on October 07, 2020, 08:58:42 AM
Eddie Van Halen dead at 65 from cancer.  One hell of a guitar player.

He was such an icon for those of us growing up in the late 70's - early 80's.

Fair Warning is still one of my favorite albums. And, yes, I have the actual album, thank you very much.

Getting old continues to suck.
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Post by: Langue_doc on October 31, 2020, 07:54:46 AM
Sean Connery obit
https://www.nytimes.com/2020/10/31/movies/sean-connery-dead.html?action=click&module=Top%20Stories&pgtype=Homepage

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Post by: hmaria1609 on October 31, 2020, 07:00:43 PM
Sean Connery obit
https://www.nytimes.com/2020/10/31/movies/sean-connery-dead.html?action=click&module=Top%20Stories&pgtype=Homepage
Besides the Bond movies, I remember him in "Indiana Jones & the Last Crusade" and "First Knight."
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Post by: dismalist on October 31, 2020, 07:55:35 PM
Aside from his Bond roles -- From Russia .. -- was my favorite, he did serious stuff such as the unforgettable The Hill and The Man who Would be King.

What else stood out strongly is that most actors and actresses talk garbage if they don't have a script -- Sean Connery made sense when asked about anything.
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Post by: Langue_doc on October 31, 2020, 08:14:46 PM
The Indiana Jones movie is one of my favorites too. I also liked him in The Man Who Would be King and The Untouchables. RIP, Sean Connery.
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Post by: sinenomine on November 08, 2020, 10:52:26 AM
Sad to hear of Alex Trebek’s passing.
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Post by: polly_mer on November 08, 2020, 11:04:43 AM
Sad to hear of Alex Trebek’s passing.

Yes, Alex has been part of the evening routine for decades.  The world has irreparably changed.
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Post by: fishbrains on November 08, 2020, 11:21:07 AM
Sad to hear of Alex Trebek’s passing.

Yes, Alex has been part of the evening routine for decades.  The world has irreparably changed.

Neither one of these posts were put in the form of a question.



(sigh)
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Post by: Langue_doc on November 08, 2020, 01:05:32 PM
Sad to hear of Alex Trebek’s passing.

Yes, Alex has been part of the evening routine for decades.  The world has irreparably changed.

Neither one of these posts were put in the form of a question.



(sigh)

Who has been part of the evening routine for decades?
(sigh)

I have friends who don't answer their phones until after 7:30.
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Post by: namazu on November 20, 2020, 09:36:19 PM
Not a person, and I apologize if it's therefore inappropriate for this thread, but I think many scientists and stargazers will miss the Arecibo Observatory in Puerto Rico, which is damaged beyond repair (https://www.sciencemag.org/news/2020/11/famed-arecibo-telescope-brink-collapse-will-be-dismantled). 


Thinking also of the million+ souls lost to COVID as well as those left behind, particularly  the health care workers dealing with grief on top of incredible personal and professional stress (https://twitter.com/Prof_Lowe/status/1327038059238617099).
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Post by: evil_physics_witchcraft on November 20, 2020, 10:36:41 PM
Not a person, and I apologize if it's therefore inappropriate for this thread, but I think many scientists and stargazers will miss the Arecibo Observatory in Puerto Rico, which is damaged beyond repair (https://www.sciencemag.org/news/2020/11/famed-arecibo-telescope-brink-collapse-will-be-dismantled). 


Thinking also of the million+ souls lost to COVID as well as those left behind, particularly  the health care workers dealing with grief on top of incredible personal and professional stress (https://twitter.com/Prof_Lowe/status/1327038059238617099).

Sad for both.
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Post by: evil_physics_witchcraft on November 29, 2020, 10:05:39 AM
My father-in-law passed this morning. It has been a rough week.
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Post by: namazu on November 29, 2020, 10:12:32 AM
My father-in-law passed this morning. It has been a rough week.
I'm sorry about your loss, e_p_w.
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Post by: ab_grp on November 29, 2020, 10:28:51 AM
My father-in-law passed this morning. It has been a rough week.

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.  Take care.
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Post by: AmLitHist on November 29, 2020, 11:50:10 AM
My father-in-law passed this morning. It has been a rough week.
Sympathies to you and your extended family.  Take care.
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Post by: Larimar on November 29, 2020, 11:51:57 AM
My father-in-law passed this morning. It has been a rough week.

Very sorry to hear it. Hope your cats will be cuddly and comforting for you.
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Post by: Langue_doc on November 29, 2020, 01:20:34 PM
My father-in-law passed this morning. It has been a rough week.

Sorry to hear about your loss, EPW. Please take good care of yourself.
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Post by: clean on November 29, 2020, 01:45:20 PM
Oh, no! 
Very sorry to hear about your loss. The holidays are especially hard after a death, and when the death is during the holidays it is much worse.  I wish you all peace and I hope that you remember the best of the times.
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Post by: mamselle on November 29, 2020, 05:57:06 PM
I add my condolences to others', e_p_w.

I also just found out about the death of dancer Marge Champion, 101, on October 21 of this year.

   https://www.mansfieldnewsjournal.com/story/entertainment/2019/09/03/woman-who-served-model-disneys-snow-white-turns-100/2199361001/

   https://www.latimes.com/obituaries/story/2020-10-23/marge-champion-famed-dancer-of-hollywoods-golden-age-dies-at-101

I met her briefly in 1973; her insights and energy had a pivotal effect on my work in the liturgical arts.

Her graciousness and courage in the face of several setbacks throughout her life were exemplary.

RIP--and find one of those clouds to keep dancing on, Marge.

M.
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Post by: kaysixteen on November 29, 2020, 07:18:50 PM
Geoffrey Palmer, 93, the estimable British actor who played Lionel Hardcastle on 'As Time Goes By', one of the very best TV series ever made anywhere.
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Post by: Parasaurolophus on December 12, 2020, 10:26:09 AM
My sick colleague (whose courses I took over) has died.

I didn't know her for long, nor did I know her well, but I'm very sorry she's gone.
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Post by: ab_grp on December 12, 2020, 10:51:25 AM
My sick colleague (whose courses I took over) has died.

I didn't know her for long, nor did I know her well, but I'm very sorry she's gone.

I'm sorry to hear about your colleague.  These losses are hard no matter what.  Take care.
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Post by: clean on December 12, 2020, 03:32:27 PM
Charlie Pride has died of Covid.
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Post by: mamselle on December 12, 2020, 05:49:44 PM
Charlie Pride has died of Covid.

Also Carol Sutton.

   https://www.cnn.com/2020/12/12/us/carol-sutton-coronavirus-death/index.html

M.
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Post by: Harlow2 on December 13, 2020, 03:38:53 PM
John la Carre of pneumonia.  A writer whose plain but elegant writing brought into being a remarkable world for those of us born in the shadow of WW 2.
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Post by: Langue_doc on December 13, 2020, 03:57:45 PM
RIP. I enjoyed and still enjoy his novels, especially the George Smiley ones.
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Post by: mamselle on December 13, 2020, 04:03:54 PM
RIP. I enjoyed and still enjoy his novels, especially the George Smiley ones.

I just watched the "Soldier, etc"  series this past summer, have read others.

Detail and settings were vivid, characters deep, even unto themselves. A dimensional world.

M.

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Post by: Langue_doc on December 13, 2020, 05:10:42 PM
Was that the one with Alex Guinness? There's also the follow up, "Smiley's People".
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Post by: mamselle on December 13, 2020, 08:50:15 PM
Was that the one with Alex Guinness? There's also the follow up, "Smiley's People".

Yes, I saw both. In fact, I saw "Smiley's People" first, then looked up the predecessor, it was so good.

M.
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Post by: Langue_doc on December 13, 2020, 09:03:36 PM
I saw both, but only after I had read the novels. I also remember seeing "The Spy Who Came in from the Cold" with Richard Buton.

Here is the obit: https://www.nytimes.com/2020/12/13/books/john-le-carre-dead.html

Incidentally, one of the clues in NYT's Monday crossword (the online edition is released Sun evening) is on John Le Carre.

One of my favorites is "Call for the Dead"--short, tight, and gripping.
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Post by: mamselle on December 15, 2020, 02:33:13 PM
Someone else agrees:

   https://www.theatlantic.com/culture/archive/2020/12/the-achievement-of-john-le-carres-tinker-tailor-soldier-spy/617383/

It's somehow encouraging to think that our good work can live after us....at least in some cases.

M.
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Post by: statsgeek on December 16, 2020, 04:55:37 AM
StatSpouse's aunt and a former colleague's wife (suddenly) this week, plus two members of my extended family in the past month.  And let me just say that Zoom funerals are barely better than nothing. 
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Post by: Harlow2 on December 16, 2020, 11:50:41 AM
So sorry, Statsgeek. Losses, especially compound ones, are difficult enough without physical presence of those who can share in the grief.
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Post by: apl68 on December 16, 2020, 12:37:27 PM
Spoke to a neighbor and fellow church member today who lost his sister to COVID last week.  None of the family was able to be with her before she died.  And of course they can't hold a real funeral.  He's well and accepting. 
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Post by: wareagle on December 22, 2020, 12:03:44 PM
We lost one of our long-time custodians to COVID last week.  Our first death in the campus family.  I never met him, but people have commented online about what a nice, unassuming guy he was, always quick with a story.  Sympathy to his family and those who loved him.
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Post by: clean on December 30, 2020, 12:11:07 PM
Dawn Wells dies of Covid

https://www.msn.com/en-us/tv/news/dawn-wells-dies-of-covid-19-mary-ann-on-gilligans-island-was-82/ar-BB1cm21J?li=BBnb7Kz

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Post by: smallcleanrat on January 04, 2021, 04:01:13 PM
Grad student in my cohort. Announcement to our department today. No details beyond vague allusion to medical complications. Haven’t interacted much after first year courses and our class being scattered to different thesis labs. Did not know him well. Still feels like a punch in the gut. We’re a pretty small cohort. Feeling so sorry for his family right now.

Don’t know yet how the rest of the cohort is taking the news.
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Post by: mamselle on January 04, 2021, 05:56:25 PM
My condolences. Even when you're not very close to someone, it's hard when you've known them at all.

M.
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Post by: apl68 on January 05, 2021, 07:17:32 AM
Found out only minutes ago that one of our long-time patrons has just died.  Not, so far as we know, from COVID.  He was a widower with long-term health problems whose time just seems to have come.  It's still sad for his family and others who knew him.
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Post by: Larimar on January 17, 2021, 05:19:57 AM
Mary Oliver, nature poet extraordinaire, who passed away from lymphoma 2 years ago today.
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Post by: secundem_artem on January 17, 2021, 10:32:12 PM
Legendary music producer Phil Spector (https://www.nytimes.com/2021/01/17/arts/music/phil-spector-dead.html?action=click&module=Top%20Stories&pgtype=Homepage) - aged 81 from Covid 19.

Sylvain Sylvain (https://www.nytimes.com/2021/01/16/arts/music/sylvain-sylvain-dead.html) guitarist for the proto-punk New York Dolls. 
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Post by: kaysixteen on January 17, 2021, 10:49:05 PM
Remind us why the unrepentant murderer Spector ought to be given plaudits here....
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Post by: secundem_artem on January 17, 2021, 11:09:07 PM
Remind us why the unrepentant murderer Spector ought to be given plaudits here....

The man changed the face of music in the 50's and 60's.  Not a nice guy, probably an abusive narcissist.  But I try to see people as broadly as I can.  John Lennon beat women in his life.  But a brilliant musician.  Norman Mailer - genuine asshole, stabbed his wife once.  But a well known man of letters.  Einstein - absolute dickhead to his first wife.  Married his cousin.  Changed the very nature of physics.  James Crick - co-discovered DNA.  Jackass IRL. 

So....  Phil Spector, dead at 81.  Brilliant music producer.  Also killed a struggling actress.  People can be admirable in some aspects and monsters in others. 
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Post by: fishbrains on January 18, 2021, 09:45:56 AM
Remind us why the unrepentant murderer Spector ought to be given plaudits here....

Not a nice guy, probably an abusive narcissist.

This reminds me of Norm MacDonald's very long joke about serial killer Albert Fish: https://youtu.be/yrbZxtuUdsQ (https://youtu.be/yrbZxtuUdsQ)
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Post by: kaysixteen on January 18, 2021, 11:30:14 AM
Lemme see:   changed music in the 60s, good, balances out, murderer, bad.

This individual ought to 'rest in peace'?
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Post by: mahagonny on January 18, 2021, 11:49:05 AM
Lemme see:   changed music in the 60s, good, balances out, murderer, bad.

This individual ought to 'rest in peace'?

Yes, but he should have started years ago.
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Post by: marshwiggle on January 18, 2021, 12:03:02 PM
Lemme see:   changed music in the 60s, good, balances out, murderer, bad.

This individual ought to 'rest in peace'?

Assuming the "RIP" in the title is more of a reminder that soeone is dead than an actual wish for someone's eternal repose, if we only choose to "remember" non-complicated people, that will be an extremely short list. It's like getting rid of statues of historical figures; removing public reminders of them doesn't erase their influence (good and bad) on history. Refusing to talk about them doesn't eliminate their contributions.
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: mahagonny on January 18, 2021, 12:08:16 PM
Lemme see:   changed music in the 60s, good, balances out, murderer, bad.

This individual ought to 'rest in peace'?

Assuming the "RIP" in the title is more of a reminder that soeone is dead than an actual wish for someone's eternal repose, if we only choose to "remember" non-complicated people, that will be an extremely short list. It's like getting rid of statues of historical figures; removing public reminders of them doesn't erase their influence (good and bad) on history. Refusing to talk about them doesn't eliminate their contributions.

I thought it could be a way to gloat, while playing the gentleman.
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Post by: marshwiggle on January 18, 2021, 12:27:23 PM
Lemme see:   changed music in the 60s, good, balances out, murderer, bad.

This individual ought to 'rest in peace'?

Assuming the "RIP" in the title is more of a reminder that soeone is dead than an actual wish for someone's eternal repose, if we only choose to "remember" non-complicated people, that will be an extremely short list. It's like getting rid of statues of historical figures; removing public reminders of them doesn't erase their influence (good and bad) on history. Refusing to talk about them doesn't eliminate their contributions.

I thought it could be a way to gloat, while playing the gentleman.

Fair enough. Still more honest than trying to forget they ever existed, or never did anything of value.
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: mahagonny on January 18, 2021, 01:04:14 PM
Lemme see:   changed music in the 60s, good, balances out, murderer, bad.

This individual ought to 'rest in peace'?

Assuming the "RIP" in the title is more of a reminder that soeone is dead than an actual wish for someone's eternal repose, if we only choose to "remember" non-complicated people, that will be an extremely short list. It's like getting rid of statues of historical figures; removing public reminders of them doesn't erase their influence (good and bad) on history. Refusing to talk about them doesn't eliminate their contributions.

I thought it could be a way to gloat, while playing the gentleman.

Fair enough. Still more honest than trying to forget they ever existed, or never did anything of value.

Specter's music production innovations are a matter of historical record but their value is a matter of individual taste.
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: mahagonny on January 18, 2021, 01:06:58 PM
Lemme see:   changed music in the 60s, good, balances out, murderer, bad.

This individual ought to 'rest in peace'?

Assuming the "RIP" in the title is more of a reminder that soeone is dead than an actual wish for someone's eternal repose, if we only choose to "remember" non-complicated people, that will be an extremely short list. It's like getting rid of statues of historical figures; removing public reminders of them doesn't erase their influence (good and bad) on history. Refusing to talk about them doesn't eliminate their contributions.

I thought it could be a way to gloat, while playing the gentleman.

Fair enough. Still more honest than trying to forget they ever existed, or never did anything of value.

Specter's music production innovations are a matter of historical record but their value is a matter of individual taste. (said the curmudgeon)
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Post by: larryc on January 18, 2021, 02:19:24 PM
A couple who were acquaintances both died in the last month, both of COVID.

He ran a restaurant and a glossy lifestyle magazine focused on our town. They used to throw release parties for the magazine and we'd go to meet some interesting people. He and I hit it off and made each other laugh.

When COVID hit and he had to close his restaurant he went nuts. Kept arguing on Facebook that it wasn't that bad, the governor is overreacting, etc. He got kicked out of a local Facebook group devoted to COVID safety and wrote a column in his magazine about how mean they were too him.

And throughout the summer and fall they both kept posting photos of themselves out socializing, in groups, no masks in site.

She was 57, he was about 60. I am sad and angry both.
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Post by: mamselle on January 18, 2021, 02:33:41 PM
I'm sorry for that loss, and I think I also understand your anger.

It's almost the way one can feel about a suicide, on the one hand a felo de se, in that they brought it on themselves, and yet they also deprived others of their beloved company and created a sense of loss in the world that no-one would have ever wanted.

M.
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: secundem_artem on January 19, 2021, 11:49:16 AM
My father died 11 years ago today on his 94th birthday.  He'd be 105 today.  He always said he planned to live to be 100 and was mean enough to make.  And he nearly did.  Rest easy Dad.
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: kaysixteen on January 19, 2021, 10:29:32 PM
A hs classmate of mine died of cancer today.   She was a friend of decades, though not intimate, and she made some questionable choices, one of which was embracing, to the point of becoming a practitioner, of quack 'alternative medicine'.   Sadly I have to question whether this hastened her death.
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: mamselle on January 21, 2021, 06:20:27 PM
I'm sorry for your loss.

When you've known someone that long, it just seems like they'll always be there...and then they aren't.

RIP.

M.
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: kaysixteen on January 21, 2021, 06:30:13 PM
Thank you.   I confess I am conflicted.   I do not want her to be dead, but I cannot get around the fact that her poor choices wrt embracing quackery likely greatly hastened that death.   She was not only a user of such things, but an active teacher of them, being, amongst other new agey things, a 'Reiki Master'.

This is similar in fact to what I felt like six months ago when a grad school buddy of mine was killed in a motorcycle crash.   He was in his late 40s, a family man.   Now his wife is a widow and his daughter fatherless, because he was stupid enough to ride a motorcycle.   I get that he was not at fault for the accident-- the trucker who hit him, not impaired in any way, probably just could not see him, and when a truck hits a motorbike, well we all know who loses.   Six months have gone by, his widow is still obviously, by her Facebook efforts, still having a mighty hard time of it, and I am still dealing with really negative feelings towards the guy, who was off on a cross-country summer bike trip while his family was at home, presumably filling some sort of midlife crisis fantasy.  I do not necessarily like my feelings, but cannot deny them nonetheless.
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: evil_physics_witchcraft on January 21, 2021, 07:10:03 PM
Thank you.   I confess I am conflicted.   I do not want her to be dead, but I cannot get around the fact that her poor choices wrt embracing quackery likely greatly hastened that death.   She was not only a user of such things, but an active teacher of them, being, amongst other new agey things, a 'Reiki Master'.

This is similar in fact to what I felt like six months ago when a grad school buddy of mine was killed in a motorcycle crash.   He was in his late 40s, a family man.   Now his wife is a widow and his daughter fatherless, because he was stupid enough to ride a motorcycle.   I get that he was not at fault for the accident-- the trucker who hit him, not impaired in any way, probably just could not see him, and when a truck hits a motorbike, well we all know who loses.   Six months have gone by, his widow is still obviously, by her Facebook efforts, still having a mighty hard time of it, and I am still dealing with really negative feelings towards the guy, who was off on a cross-country summer bike trip while his family was at home, presumably filling some sort of midlife crisis fantasy.  I do not necessarily like my feelings, but cannot deny them nonetheless.

So sorry for your loss, kay.
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: ciao_yall on January 21, 2021, 09:23:20 PM
A hs classmate of mine died of cancer today.   She was a friend of decades, though not intimate, and she made some questionable choices, one of which was embracing, to the point of becoming a practitioner, of quack 'alternative medicine'.   Sadly I have to question whether this hastened her death.

Same with Steve Jobs.

I dunno. Maybe she preferred to die whole and naturally instead of sick with radiation and chemotherapy?

Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: kaysixteen on January 21, 2021, 11:29:13 PM
She was 53yo and had children.   She should have accepted serious science-based treatment, rather than quackery.   It really is that simple.
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: clean on January 22, 2021, 09:32:39 AM
https://www.twincities.com/2021/01/22/hammerin-hank-aaron-has-died-at-age-86/ (https://www.twincities.com/2021/01/22/hammerin-hank-aaron-has-died-at-age-86/)

Hank Aaron died today.
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: hmaria1609 on January 22, 2021, 07:07:16 PM
Tonight's "PBS News Hour" newscast ended with a memorial tribute to Jim Lehrer who died this time last year.
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: clean on January 23, 2021, 08:44:53 AM
Larry King  (87)
https://www.msn.com/en-us/tv/celebrity/larry-king-breezy-interviewer-of-the-famous-and-infamous-dies-at-87/ar-BB1d1qhd?ocid=Peregrine&li=BBnb7Kz
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: secundem_artem on January 23, 2021, 01:47:51 PM
Larry King  (87)
https://www.msn.com/en-us/tv/celebrity/larry-king-breezy-interviewer-of-the-famous-and-infamous-dies-at-87/ar-BB1d1qhd?ocid=Peregrine&li=BBnb7Kz

King had a truly odd interviewing style.  "So.... Putin, Schmutin.  Waddaya think?"  He had a 60 year career so I expect that means this was successful, but I always found it confusing.
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: hmaria1609 on January 23, 2021, 07:18:01 PM
King had a truly odd interviewing style.  "So.... Putin, Schmutin.  Waddaya think?"  He had a 60 year career so I expect that means this was successful, but I always found it confusing.

Here's an interview with Larry King from 2015:
https://wtop.com/entertainment/2021/01/broadcast-legend-larry-king-dies-at-87-wtop-shares-obituary-in-his-own-words/ (https://wtop.com/entertainment/2021/01/broadcast-legend-larry-king-dies-at-87-wtop-shares-obituary-in-his-own-words/)
I didn't know he'd been in radio before he went to CNN. From WTOP Radio online 1/23/21
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: namazu on January 30, 2021, 05:06:41 AM
Flory Jagoda. (https://www.arts.gov/honors/heritage/flory-jagoda)

Quote from: American Folklife Center
The American Folklife Center (https://loc.gov/folklife/) is very sad to pass on the news of the death of Flory Jagoda. Flory was a singer, songwriter, multi-instrumentalist, teacher, and cultural activist who survived the Holocaust and kept the flame of Sephardic Jewish tradition alive in the face of adversity. She was a tradition bearer whose work was crucial to her tradition and to the United States, and she was recognized with a National Heritage Fellowship from the National Endowment for the Arts, among many other honors.

Flory appeared at the Library of Congress many times in the past few years. She was a favorite performer and friend to many in the American Folklife Center and the Judaica Section. All of us at the Center express our condolences to Flory's family, friends, students, and fans.

[...]

At the link, find a blog post celebrating Flory's legacy, with embedded videos of three of Flory's concerts and an oral history interview by Howard Bass.
https://blogs.loc.gov/folklife/2019/03/homegrown-plus-flory-jagoda/?loclr=fbafc

Appropriately, Flory died in the hours leading up to a special Sabbath in the Jewish faith: Shabbat Shirah, which commemorates the passage of the Israelites through the Red Sea. Shabbat Shirah means "The Sabbath of Song," because the Israelite women sang a song of praise after coming through the sea, led by the prophet Miriam with her tambourine. Flory was just such a song leader for so many in the community of Sephardic musicians.
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: evil_physics_witchcraft on February 02, 2021, 01:37:42 PM
Someone I know lost her mother to Covid. :(
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: fishbrains on February 03, 2021, 10:36:02 AM
Cloris Leachman.

R.I.P. Frau Blücher [sad, but still nervous, neighing of horses]
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: apl68 on February 03, 2021, 12:35:06 PM
Captain Tom, the 100-year-old World War II veteran who did 100 laps to raise money, has now died of COVID.
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: clean on February 03, 2021, 12:39:31 PM
Hal Holbrook  at 95.
I saw him in An Evening With Mark Twain. I had tickets to see him a second time, but the show was cancelled when his wife took a turn, and unfortunately, died. 
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: apl68 on February 04, 2021, 07:59:10 AM
Hal Holbrook  at 95.
I saw him in An Evening With Mark Twain. I had tickets to see him a second time, but the show was cancelled when his wife took a turn, and unfortunately, died.

He played the elderly Mark Twain so convincingly for so long that I was surprised to hear that he had still been alive.  I'd supposed that he must have passed 100 years ago.
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: mamselle on February 04, 2021, 04:57:22 PM
Friends just told me about meeting him in London at a small restaurant near Pall Mall several years ago.

They recognized him, but didn't let on. He just said, "How nice to see some Americans here!"

He asked them what they'd been doing, they said wandering around London.

They asked him what he'd been doing, he said going to Buckingham Palace to see the Queen.

I don't know what happened after that, but they said they did not ask for autographs or let on they knew who he was.

M.
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: hmaria1609 on February 04, 2021, 06:44:59 PM
Captain Tom, the 100-year-old World War II veteran who did 100 laps to raise money, has now died of COVID.
The London Eye was lit in red, white, and blue in his honor:
https://secretldn.com/london-eye-captain-tom/ (https://secretldn.com/london-eye-captain-tom/)
Posted on Secret London online (2/2/21)
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: apl68 on February 05, 2021, 07:53:34 AM
Nobody here has mentioned Cicely Tyson.  She died suddenly within the last couple of weeks.  She lived to be almost as old as Miss Jane Pitman.

Her memoir was just in the process of coming out.  We have it on order for the library.
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: mamselle on February 05, 2021, 08:32:47 AM
I've had it in mind twice and didn't have a link on hand to an obit or article on her.

RIP, Cicley: You set the bar high for class, role selection, and style.

M.
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: secundem_artem on February 05, 2021, 12:36:35 PM
Christopher Plummer (https://www.nytimes.com/2021/02/05/movies/christopher-plummer-dead.html?action=click&module=Top%20Stories&pgtype=Homepage) aged 91 after a fall.
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: jimbogumbo on February 06, 2021, 11:49:57 AM
Susan Bayh, wife of Sen. Evan Bayh, at 61 of cancer.
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: clean on February 17, 2021, 10:55:38 AM
Rush Limbaugh age 70

https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/us/rush-limbaugh-conservative-radio-provocateur-and-cultural-phenomenon-dies-at-70/ar-BB1dLy8M?li=BBnb7Kz
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: little bongo on February 18, 2021, 07:09:09 AM
That's fair. I seldom if ever agreed with Limbaugh, but to go from sports-guy-shock-jock to major national kingmaker is quite a ride.
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: fishbrains on February 23, 2021, 12:21:04 PM
Beat poet Lawrence Ferlinghetti died yesterday

From "The world is a beautiful place":

             The world is a beautiful place
                                                           to be born into
       if you don’t mind some people dying
                                                                  all the time
                        or maybe only starving
                                                           some of the time
                 which isn’t half so bad
                                                      if it isn’t you
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: Larimar on February 23, 2021, 12:29:18 PM
Beat poet Lawrence Ferlinghetti died yesterday

From "The world is a beautiful place":

             The world is a beautiful place
                                                           to be born into
       if you don’t mind some people dying
                                                                  all the time
                        or maybe only starving
                                                           some of the time
                 which isn’t half so bad
                                                      if it isn’t you

Aw, sorry to hear that he is gone.
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: Langue_doc on February 23, 2021, 01:12:42 PM
NYT obit https://www.nytimes.com/2021/02/23/obituaries/lawrence-ferlinghetti-dead.html
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: traductio on February 23, 2021, 01:18:51 PM
NYT obit https://www.nytimes.com/2021/02/23/obituaries/lawrence-ferlinghetti-dead.html

Oh, one of my all time favorites. What gifts he gave to the world:

From "I Am Waiting" (https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/42869/i-am-waiting-56d22183d718a):

Quote
I am waiting
to get some intimations
of immortality
by recollecting my early childhood
and I am waiting
for the green mornings to come again   
youth's dumb green fields come back again
and I am waiting
for some strains of unpremeditated art
to shake my typewriter
and I am waiting to write
the great indelible poem
and I am waiting
for the last long careless rapture
and I am perpetually waiting
for the fleeing lovers on the Grecian Urn   
to catch each other up at last
and embrace
and I am awaiting   
perpetually and forever
a renaissance of wonder
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: clean on March 09, 2021, 04:05:26 PM
Roger Mudd  at 93

https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/us/roger-mudd-anchorman-who-stumped-a-kennedy-is-dead-at-93/ar-BB1eq51C?li=BBnb7Kz
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: hmaria1609 on March 09, 2021, 07:26:54 PM
Roger Mudd  at 93
https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/us/roger-mudd-anchorman-who-stumped-a-kennedy-is-dead-at-93/ar-BB1eq51C?li=BBnb7Kz

Of interest, Mr. Mudd worked at WTOP Radio and Richmond, VA news outlets before he went to CBS.
https://wtop.com/tv/2021/03/roger-mudd-longtime-network-tv-newsman-dies-at-93/ (https://wtop.com/tv/2021/03/roger-mudd-longtime-network-tv-newsman-dies-at-93/)
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: Larimar on March 21, 2021, 05:58:06 PM
Adam Zagajewski, the amazing Polish poet, passed away yesterday. He leaves behind the good advice to "Try to Praise the Mutilated World".
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: fishbrains on March 24, 2021, 10:26:55 AM
My neighbor (in her mid-70's) had to put her dog down yesterday. This was one of those dogs who looked like it might die at any minute for the last 5 years; but the dog was always playful and enjoyed looking my dogs square in the eyes as she pooped a foot away from our chain-link fence while my dogs barked hysterically. The dog's last few days were pretty ugly. This was a chunky bulldog, so we had to help our neighbor lift it around. Ugh.

Our neighbor's son (who lived with her) died suddenly about 15 months ago and they had adopted the dog together as a puppy, so the dog was the queen of the house.

Our neighbor quit eating for a bit after her son died. We're keeping an eye on her.
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: hmaria1609 on March 24, 2021, 07:27:43 PM
The owner of a local independent wine shop in my town died early this week. I had brought bottles of Disznókő Tokaji Dry Furmint (2016 vintage) at this shop and enjoyed talking with the owner whenever I went. He remembered I wanted something from Croatia but he was unsuccessful finding a company there wanting to export.
He also carried some beers but wine was the main thing.
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: mamselle on March 24, 2021, 07:39:26 PM
I'm sorry for both your losses.

M.
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: AmLitHist on March 26, 2021, 08:45:22 AM
Several in the entertainment world this week:

Author Larry McMurtry (https://www.nytimes.com/2021/03/26/books/larry-mcmurtry-dead.html?action=click&module=Well&pgtype=Homepage&section=Obituaries) aged 84

Actor George Segal, (https://www.nytimes.com/2021/03/23/movies/george-segal-dead.html) aged 87

Actress Jessica Walter (https://www.nytimes.com/2021/03/25/arts/television/jessica-walter-dead.html?searchResultPosition=2), aged 80
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: hmaria1609 on March 26, 2021, 07:03:23 PM
I'm sorry for both your losses.

M.
Thanks! The owner had been there for a decade, his shop was along one of the downtown streets. If the shop is shuttered for good, I'm sorry I didn't discover it sooner. :( Disznókő Tokaji Dry Furmint took me back to Budapest each time; I'm grateful he had that available.
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: namazu on March 26, 2021, 07:09:39 PM
Beverly Cleary has died at age 104.
NY Times obit (https://www.nytimes.com/2021/03/26/books/beverly-cleary-dead.html)
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: fishbrains on March 27, 2021, 08:46:10 AM
Several in the entertainment world this week:

Actor George Segal, (https://www.nytimes.com/2021/03/23/movies/george-segal-dead.html) aged 87


My favorite dad joke from Segal (I think from Fun with Dick and Jane):

JF: "How many times have you been shot?"

GS: "Including this time?"

JF: "Yeah."

GS: "Once."
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: AmLitHist on March 27, 2021, 11:46:58 AM
Beverly Cleary has died at age 104.
NY Times obit (https://www.nytimes.com/2021/03/26/books/beverly-cleary-dead.html)
She was HUGE in our house, esp. with our oldest daughter. The Mouse and the Motorcycle was a big hit for a long time--including the creation of a diorama that earned an A+; I still remember saving dryer lint for her to use in making Ralph just the right color and fuzziness. 
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: namazu on March 27, 2021, 12:05:06 PM
Beverly Cleary has died at age 104.
NY Times obit (https://www.nytimes.com/2021/03/26/books/beverly-cleary-dead.html)
She was HUGE in our house, esp. with our oldest daughter. The Mouse and the Motorcycle was a big hit for a long time--including the creation of a diorama that earned an A+; I still remember saving dryer lint for her to use in making Ralph just the right color and fuzziness.
I love it! :)
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: smallcleanrat on March 27, 2021, 05:14:08 PM
Beverly Cleary has died at age 104.
NY Times obit (https://www.nytimes.com/2021/03/26/books/beverly-cleary-dead.html)

This is one of those obits that make me feel sad to know someone I admired has died yet feeling much more...hmm...I'm not actually sure what the right word would be.

It's some form of satisfaction that comes from knowing someone lived a long life doing work they deeply cared about, leaving behind a wonderful legacy in the form of their beloved books.

She was my favorite writer when I was little, and an author I still return to as an adult. I'm very much in awe of people who are able to write well for children, people who are able to tell memorable and moving stories using simple and direct language.
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: hmaria1609 on March 27, 2021, 07:20:38 PM
I enjoyed the Ramona books and the illustrations in those editions printed/released in the 1990s.
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: AmLitHist on April 09, 2021, 06:39:58 AM
Prince Philip (https://www.nytimes.com/2021/04/09/obituaries/prince-philip-dead.html), aged 99.
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: apl68 on April 09, 2021, 12:56:53 PM
Paul Greenberg, Pulitzer-prizewinning Arkansas journalist dies at the age of 84.  His Pulitzer work was before my time, but he was still a remarkable writer even late in life.



https://www.arkansasbusiness.com/article/135308/pulitzer-winner-paul-greenberg-dead-at-84
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: Langue_doc on April 10, 2021, 04:51:12 PM
Prince Philip (https://www.nytimes.com/2021/04/09/obituaries/prince-philip-dead.html), aged 99.

Here is the BBC News obit. The NYT had to bring in Oprah. Ugh!

https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-10224525

And pictures: https://www.bbc.com/news/in-pictures-36417297
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: Cheerful on April 10, 2021, 06:02:48 PM
Prince Philip (https://www.nytimes.com/2021/04/09/obituaries/prince-philip-dead.html), aged 99.

Here is the BBC News obit. The NYT had to bring in Oprah. Ugh!

https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-10224525

And pictures: https://www.bbc.com/news/in-pictures-36417297

Thanks for posting these BBC links, Langue_doc.  Interesting bio and photos.
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: hmaria1609 on April 10, 2021, 07:37:01 PM
I've been reading about Prince Philip from UK based news sources on my phone. Quite a life! 

Royalcentral.co.uk has some good coverage:
https://royalcentral.co.uk (https://royalcentral.co.uk)
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: Langue_doc on April 13, 2021, 06:46:20 AM
"Prince Philip: 99 years, 143 countries and one very famous wife" 

This article shows the family tree of his descendants.

https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-42651950
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Post by: mamselle on April 13, 2021, 07:36:55 AM
Daunte Wright, shot to death on Sunday during a routine police stop in Minneapolis:

   https://www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-56729673

M.
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: clean on April 13, 2021, 11:15:34 AM
Quote
Daunte Wright, shot to death on Sunday during a routine police stop in Minneapolis:

   https://www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-56729673

M.

After seeing the video, it was not exactly 'routine' unless people routinely make a break for it and try to drive off. 

However, it is certainly unfortunate that the officer shot him.  His actions did not justify being shot.

Something probably needs to be done with the training of officers. This is hardly the first time an officer shot someone when they THOUGHT that they were using a Taser device. 
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: mamselle on April 18, 2021, 11:40:53 PM
A year ago, 22 people in Nova Scotia were killed, and several more injured, when a shooter attacked both people known to him, as well as strangers, and set fire to several homes.*

Rest to those who died, and respite to those still suffering.

M.

* a plea was made by survivors and others to refrain from naming him, to avoid giving him any infamy; I'm abiding by that.
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: evil_physics_witchcraft on April 23, 2021, 03:30:49 PM
Shock G.

https://www.cnn.com/2021/04/23/entertainment/shock-g-digital-underground-dead/index.html (https://www.cnn.com/2021/04/23/entertainment/shock-g-digital-underground-dead/index.html)
Title: Re: RIP: To remember those lost to us, whether close or at large
Post by: EdnaMode on April 23, 2021, 03:57:17 PM
Jim Steinman. Yes, his music was excessive, but I loved it all the same, I especially enjoyed his work with Meatloaf.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/local/obituaries/jim-steinman-dead/2021/04/21/2159f3a0-a211-11eb-a774-7b47ceb36ee8_story.html
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Post by: mamselle on April 30, 2021, 02:32:29 PM
Medievalist Paul Szarmach, on April 27th.

For many years, he ran the International Conference on Medieval Studies at Western Michigan University in Kalamazoo, until 2006.

In that year he became a Fellow of the Medieval Academy of America for his scholarship in early English literature, and its Executive Director until his retirement in 2011.

I've never heard a bad word spoken of him. He always had a twinkle in his eye and was willing to listen to and encourage new research and new researchers.   

M.
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Post by: wareagle on May 03, 2021, 08:30:37 AM
Olympia Dukakis. 

Johnny Crawford, whom I believe was one of the original Mouseketeers, in addition to his role in The Rifleman.
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Post by: traductio on May 26, 2021, 07:15:04 PM
Eric Carle, author of The Very Hunger Caterpillar, died today (https://www.nytimes.com/2021/05/26/books/eric-carle-dead.html).

He was the author of one of my favourite opening sentences of any book I have ever read (it's such a peaceful sentence): "In the light of the moon a little egg lay on a leaf."
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Post by: mamselle on May 27, 2021, 06:11:47 AM
I loved his bold use of color and whimsy...page cut-outs and glittery fish fins among them.

RIP to one who created so much cause for joy.

M.
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Post by: mamselle on May 27, 2021, 06:32:30 PM
This tribute to him is fitting:

   https://www.wbur.org/npr/970974320/eric-carle-creator-of-the-very-hungry-caterpillar-has-died

M.
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Post by: mamselle on June 06, 2021, 08:24:15 AM
Right now, the names of a few hundred indigenous children who died at one of several mandated educational institutions are known, but thousands may have been buried in unmarked graves in other locations as well:

   https://www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-57325653

Your people stewarded the land for generations, and this is how you were repaid...not only in this one place, but in many, throughout the globe.

Reparations for lost young lives are impossible, may we all, in all places, learn to do and be better.

M.
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Post by: evil_physics_witchcraft on June 17, 2021, 03:57:13 PM
I just found out that one of my colleagues passed yesterday. He was only 67.
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Post by: fishbrains on June 17, 2021, 08:42:52 PM
Ned Beatty died a couple of days ago. Deliverance was the first R-rated movie I ever saw. Probably wasn't a good first choice for me. He was good as Dan's dad in Roseanne as well. [sigh]
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Post by: AmLitHist on June 18, 2021, 10:31:07 AM
I just found out that one of my colleagues passed yesterday. He was only 67.

So sorry to hear this, EPW.
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Post by: fishbrains on June 18, 2021, 01:06:31 PM
Frank Bonner, the guy who played Herb Tarlek on WKRP in Cincinnati, died Wednesday at the age of 79.
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Post by: mamselle on July 01, 2021, 02:42:07 PM
Donald Rumsfeld:

   https://www.msnbc.com/transcripts/transcript-rachel-maddow-show-6-30-21-n1272874

M.
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Post by: secundem_artem on July 01, 2021, 03:23:01 PM
Donald Rumsfeld:

   https://www.msnbc.com/transcripts/transcript-rachel-maddow-show-6-30-21-n1272874

M.

Quel dommage.  Not.

I saw a biography of Rummie a number of years ago.  It was clear he'd been an a-hole since he was out of diapers. 
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Post by: namazu on July 06, 2021, 03:46:02 PM
João Gilberto (https://www.npr.org/2019/07/08/739488787/how-joao-gilbertos-music-sparked-an-aesthetic-revolution).
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Post by: mamselle on August 30, 2021, 06:04:54 AM
This is delayed, I thought I had posted it in June, but had only made a note to myself to do so:

On June 12, 1963, fifty-eight years ago, the nonviolent NAACP leader, activist Medgar Evers, was shot in the back in his own driveway, on a day the police and FBI protection being afforded him in response to credible threats did not appear to escort him out.

A veteran of the French theater of WWII (Battle of Normandy), and honorably discharged as a Sergeant, he was buried in Arlington National Cemetery with full military honors. After three trials, his assassin was convicted and jailed in 1994.

I recall this event personally because, at the age of ten, seeing the article in the newspaper, it was the first time I realized I disagreed with my father over something significant, and I was puzzled about it.

My dad had helped found an interracial fraternity, Akerima, at Ohio State and had forced my mom's folks to accept the fact that his black army buddy (one of them had carried the other off a field in Germany, he never said which) was going to be one of his groomsmen. Or there wouldn't be a wedding.

But when I showed him the article, he was weirdly subdued, muttered something like "that's not the way to go about it," and wouldn't discuss it further.

Now, many years later, my sibs and I, putting recollections together, have concluded he had a longstanding PTSD-related depression, and I am guessing it muted what might in other moments have been outrage over Evers' death.

But I recall then, and still believe now, that the assassination was eerily responsive to JFK's Civil Rights speech of the day before. A kind of war had been declared, and Evers wasn't the first casualty, but a significant one.

A graduate of Alcorn, there's a statue of him on their campus.

RIP.

M.
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Post by: fishbrains on August 30, 2021, 07:40:52 AM
Actor Ed Asner died yesterday at 91.
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Post by: kaysixteen on August 30, 2021, 09:24:29 PM
I hate spunk.
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Post by: clean on September 05, 2021, 11:31:58 AM
Willard Scott (NBC Weatherman.) 
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Post by: fishbrains on September 05, 2021, 12:17:01 PM
I hate spunk.

:)

How old do I have to be to recognize this reference?
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Post by: hmaria1609 on September 05, 2021, 07:34:31 PM
Willard Scott (NBC Weatherman.)
He got his start in broadcasting here in DC:
https://wtop.com/tv/2021/09/he-made-everybody-feel-special-johnny-holliday-remembers-willard-scott/ (https://wtop.com/tv/2021/09/he-made-everybody-feel-special-johnny-holliday-remembers-willard-scott/)
Posted on WTOP Radio (9/5/21)
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Post by: jimbogumbo on September 06, 2021, 06:31:07 AM
I hate spunk.

:)

How old do I have to be to recognize this reference?

"A little song, a little dance, a little seltzer down your pants."
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Post by: ab_grp on September 07, 2021, 12:22:59 PM
Michael K. Williams https://www.nytimes.com/2021/09/06/arts/michael-k-williams-dead.html.  He was a multi-talented individual who brought some truly iconic and unforgettable characters to life (Omar Little is probably the biggest fan favorite), but obviously he had numerous personal struggles throughout his own life.  He was obviously well regarded by his colleagues and sounds like a genuinely kind and giving person as well.   
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Post by: clean on September 14, 2021, 12:29:20 PM
Norm McDonald at 61
After a nine year fight with cancer
He kept it a secret so I never knew he was sick
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Post by: little bongo on September 14, 2021, 07:40:07 PM
Yes--Mcdonald didn't want audiences to regard him any differently, and nothing was allowed to get in the way of the comedy. The guy made me laugh a lot.
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Post by: fishbrains on September 15, 2021, 06:04:42 PM
Norm was fearless: "I bet it's spelled b-o-r-e-d!"

https://youtu.be/lL0WayC7jW0 (https://youtu.be/lL0WayC7jW0)