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downer

"When fascism comes to America, it will be wrapped in the flag and carrying a cross."—Sinclair Lewis

AmLitHist

Should we start a Fight Club thread? 

dismalist

Quote from: AmLitHist on August 07, 2020, 08:25:48 AM
Should we start a Fight Club thread?

Nah, we got enough of those already!
That's not even wrong!
--Wolfgang Pauli

hmaria1609

Quote from: dismalist on August 07, 2020, 10:31:54 AM
Quote from: AmLitHist on August 07, 2020, 08:25:48 AM
Should we start a Fight Club thread?

Nah, we got enough of those already!
I believe there was one on the old CHE Forum.

downer

9 Useful Strategies to Dealing with Difficult People at Work on the Fora
Be calm. ...
Understand the person's intentions. ...
Get some perspective from others. ...
Let the person know where you are coming from. ...
Build a rapport. ...
Treat the person with respect. ...
Focus on what can be actioned upon. ...
Ignore.
Take it to a superior.
"When fascism comes to America, it will be wrapped in the flag and carrying a cross."—Sinclair Lewis

polly_mer

No.  People who are just wrong and flat out refuse to change do not deserve respect when doubling down on wrong.  The ignore feature is pretty nifty, especially when 'everyone' else is also ignoring so little to nothing is quoted.

If you're going to report, then you have to report something that's actually over a line instead of just 'they said I was wrong and I object to being told I'm wrong.'
Quote from: hmaria1609 on June 27, 2019, 07:07:43 PM
Do whatever you want--I'm just the background dancer in your show!

mahagonny

#231
Quote from: downer on August 10, 2020, 01:00:15 PM
9 Useful Strategies to Dealing with Difficult People at Work on the Fora
Be calm. ...
Understand the person's intentions. ...
Get some perspective from others. ...
Let the person know where you are coming from. ...
Build a rapport. ...
Treat the person with respect. ...
Focus on what can be actioned upon. ...
Ignore.
Take it to a superior.

What I don't think you're considering.... the tenure culture judges your worthiness and intelligence by your ability to cultivate allies, alliances. I do a fair (good enough) job of that in real life. But Mahagonny barely bothers with it. He doesn't have time. He just posts what he thinks.
And BTW, if you haven't figured out that it's unlikely you'll end up with anything in return for tiptoeing around them, you will.
Call me a troll then if that's your inclination.

mamselle

Quote from: downer on August 10, 2020, 01:00:15 PM
9 Useful Strategies to Dealing with Difficult People at Work on the Fora
Be calm. ...
Understand the person's intentions. ...
Get some perspective from others. ...
Let the person know where you are coming from. ...
Build a rapport. ...
Treat the person with respect. ...
Focus on what can be actioned upon. ...
Ignore.
Take it to a superior.

^ Like.

We need healing, not tearing apart at each others' wounds.

M.
Forsake the foolish, and live; and go in the way of understanding.

Reprove not a scorner, lest they hate thee: rebuke the wise, and they will love thee.

Give instruction to the wise, and they will be yet wiser: teach the just, and they will increase in learning.

namazu

Surely I'm not the only one who misread that as "pizza"...

polly_mer

Quote from: mamselle on August 10, 2020, 04:10:56 PM
Quote from: downer on August 10, 2020, 01:00:15 PM
9 Useful Strategies to Dealing with Difficult People at Work on the Fora
Be calm. ...
Understand the person's intentions. ...
Get some perspective from others. ...
Let the person know where you are coming from. ...
Build a rapport. ...
Treat the person with respect. ...
Focus on what can be actioned upon. ...
Ignore.
Take it to a superior.

^ Like.

We need healing, not tearing apart at each others' wounds.

M.

Choosing peace by allowing wrong to stand unchallenged is how we allow wrong to continue to flourish and then wonder why wrong seems to be winning.
Quote from: hmaria1609 on June 27, 2019, 07:07:43 PM
Do whatever you want--I'm just the background dancer in your show!

Liquidambar

Quote from: polly_mer on August 16, 2020, 12:45:03 PM
Quote from: mamselle on August 10, 2020, 04:10:56 PM
Quote from: downer on August 10, 2020, 01:00:15 PM
9 Useful Strategies to Dealing with Difficult People at Work on the Fora
Be calm. ...
Understand the person's intentions. ...
Get some perspective from others. ...
Let the person know where you are coming from. ...
Build a rapport. ...
Treat the person with respect. ...
Focus on what can be actioned upon. ...
Ignore.
Take it to a superior.

^ Like.

We need healing, not tearing apart at each others' wounds.

M.

Choosing peace by allowing wrong to stand unchallenged is how we allow wrong to continue to flourish and then wonder why wrong seems to be winning.

Polly every night?

I just unfollowed a "friend" on Facebook because she keeps ignoring my critiques of the stuff she links to.  It's not worth my time and emotional energy.  By not reading her Facebook, I can be civil the next time we interact in person.  Not every hill is a hill to die on.  I have to prioritize.
Let us think the unthinkable, let us do the undoable, let us prepare to grapple with the ineffable itself, and see if we may not eff it after all. ~ Dirk Gently

little bongo

(unrelated)

Yes, I totally fed a troll--or perhaps a sea lion. "Here you go, have some fish." Usually I just make myself a sandwich, but sometimes I get a bit ticked off.

FishProf

Dammit.  You said something I agree with and in a way that wasn't annoying or offensive.

Grrr.  Commencing re-calibration of opinion.....
I'd rather have questions I can't answer, than answers I can't question.

FishProf

Nope, nevermind. 

Apparently that was an outlier, a glitch, or a bot.
I'd rather have questions I can't answer, than answers I can't question.

downer

"When fascism comes to America, it will be wrapped in the flag and carrying a cross."—Sinclair Lewis