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[downer]

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Get a room, you two.

[AmLitHist]

Should we start a Fight Club thread? 

[dismalist]

Should we start a Fight Club thread?

Nah, we got enough of those already!

[hmaria1609]

Should we start a Fight Club thread?

Nah, we got enough of those already!

I believe there was one on the old CHE Forum.

[downer]

9 Useful Strategies to Dealing with Difficult People at Work on the Fora
Be calm. ...
Understand the person's intentions. ...
Get some perspective from others. ...
Let the person know where you are coming from. ...
Build a rapport. ...
Treat the person with respect. ...
Focus on what can be actioned upon. ...
Ignore.
Take it to a superior.

[polly_mer]

No.  People who are just wrong and flat out refuse to change do not deserve respect when doubling down on wrong.  The ignore feature is pretty nifty, especially when 'everyone' else is also ignoring so little to nothing is quoted.

If you're going to report, then you have to report something that's actually over a line instead of just 'they said I was wrong and I object to being told I'm wrong.'

[mahagonny]

9 Useful Strategies to Dealing with Difficult People at Work on the Fora
Be calm. ...
Understand the person's intentions. ...
Get some perspective from others. ...
Let the person know where you are coming from. ...
Build a rapport. ...
Treat the person with respect. ...
Focus on what can be actioned upon. ...
Ignore.
Take it to a superior.

What I don't think you're considering.... the tenure culture judges your worthiness and intelligence by your ability to cultivate allies, alliances. I do a fair (good enough) job of that in real life. But Mahagonny barely bothers with it. He doesn't have time. He just posts what he thinks.
And BTW, if you haven't figured out that it's unlikely you'll end up with anything in return for tiptoeing around them, you will.
Call me a troll then if that's your inclination.

[mamselle]

9 Useful Strategies to Dealing with Difficult People at Work on the Fora
Be calm. ...
Understand the person's intentions. ...
Get some perspective from others. ...
Let the person know where you are coming from. ...
Build a rapport. ...
Treat the person with respect. ...
Focus on what can be actioned upon. ...
Ignore.
Take it to a superior.

^ Like.

We need healing, not tearing apart at each others' wounds.

M.

[namazu]

Surely I'm not the only one who misread that as "pizza"...

[polly_mer]

9 Useful Strategies to Dealing with Difficult People at Work on the Fora
Be calm. ...
Understand the person's intentions. ...
Get some perspective from others. ...
Let the person know where you are coming from. ...
Build a rapport. ...
Treat the person with respect. ...
Focus on what can be actioned upon. ...
Ignore.
Take it to a superior.

^ Like.

We need healing, not tearing apart at each others' wounds.

M.

Choosing peace by allowing wrong to stand unchallenged is how we allow wrong to continue to flourish and then wonder why wrong seems to be winning.

[Liquidambar]

9 Useful Strategies to Dealing with Difficult People at Work on the Fora
Be calm. ...
Understand the person's intentions. ...
Get some perspective from others. ...
Let the person know where you are coming from. ...
Build a rapport. ...
Treat the person with respect. ...
Focus on what can be actioned upon. ...
Ignore.
Take it to a superior.

^ Like.

We need healing, not tearing apart at each others' wounds.

M.

Choosing peace by allowing wrong to stand unchallenged is how we allow wrong to continue to flourish and then wonder why wrong seems to be winning.

Polly every night?

I just unfollowed a "friend" on Facebook because she keeps ignoring my critiques of the stuff she links to.  It's not worth my time and emotional energy.  By not reading her Facebook, I can be civil the next time we interact in person.  Not every hill is a hill to die on.  I have to prioritize.

[little bongo]

(unrelated)

Yes, I totally fed a troll--or perhaps a sea lion. "Here you go, have some fish." Usually I just make myself a sandwich, but sometimes I get a bit ticked off.

[FishProf]

Dammit.  You said something I agree with and in a way that wasn't annoying or offensive.

Grrr.  Commencing re-calibration of opinion.....

[FishProf]

Nope, nevermind. 

Apparently that was an outlier, a glitch, or a bot.

[downer]

OMFG!